Why do swingers have stronger marriages than regular married couples?

Answer 1

One word: communication.

To swing and swing successfully you have to have open and honest communication like you never had before. Much more than non-swinger couples, but it's good advice for everyone.

Swingers have developed that trust and security that eliminates jealousy (insecurity) and thus they can discuss anything in their relationship, whereas many others are afraid to talk to their spouse about virtually anything because they fear hurting their feelings, making them feel jealous, offending them, or starting a fight. Swingers are past that. If you can talk openly about someone else turning you on and wanting to have sex with them, imagine how easy it is to talk about every day things like money?

Also, that added bit of naughtiness spices up your relationship as a whole. My wife and I are like two teenagers in love. We are always holding hands or touching in one manner or another. We sit on the same side of the table at restaurants. We chat on IM or text message each other all day long while we are at work. We make a point of making "us" time away from the kids and not with anyone else. It's like when we were dating, except it feels that way all the time, now.

Trust and security is another big one. The comfort of knowing your spouse could leave and doesn't. They chose to be with you, they don't have to be with you. They've had great sex with someone else and they still not only want to be married to you, they think you're the greatest thing since sliced bread. My wife and I KNOW we are the ones for each other. We are truly soul mates. Everything else is just icing.

I hoped that helped answer your question.

Answer 2

I think the same as a lot of the people on here with experience in this situation. The marriages are often stronger because both parties do not keep any secrets and let their fantasies be known, they try different things together, sometimes swinging takes sex to a whole new level of bliss. Swingers, true swingers have complete trust and honesty with each other and love seeing their partner be pleasured. Swingers are just a different kind of people, they actually live out their fantasies, not just imagine them for 30 years. No, you dont fall for someone else's spouse, because you are so in love and secure with yours. Swingers fully understand love vs. sex, and do not let the two become mixed up. If you want to approach a spouse about it, you just gotta be honest, tell them it is something you fantasize about, and see how honest and caring you spouse really is......if they will at least talk about it. You might as well say that about 75% of people cheat now, because the statistics go up every year......so all the bible thumpers (yes you cheat too) need to get off their high horses and not judge swingers because we know you all have skeletons too.

Answer 3

Simply because we are open to anything, willing to try anything once. Most married couples look down upon swingers. I am a swinger so I am speaking from experience. I think that we are outgoing, open minded people. Most couples wouldnt even consider a 3 some - or anything of that nature. They say that its "an easy way to end a marriage". To each is own. My husband knows that I am into women, I glance here and there, he smiles. He knew before we got married, so this is nothing new to him.

Swinger marriages are better than regular marriages because they have more spice, and no boundaries in the bedroom.

Answer 4

Who the heck knows?

In order to answer that question, you would have to be far less general. But if you really wanted to be so vague and find out you'd have to take a broad cross section of swingers and a broad cross section of 'regular married couples' and do a comparison.

But it would be pretty difficult to measure strength of marriage and to define what a 'regular' couple is.

If you want to ignore science and studies and research for a moment, I can just throw an opinion out there.

I'd suggest that swingers must be fairly open minded and comfortable in their relationship if they are happy to allow their partners to sleep with some other person. This shows a strength of the relationship, but on the flip side one might wonder if they are swinging because their love life is no longer fulfilling and they are both desperate for something better than their partner brings to the table.

One might also argue that 'regular' couples are so strong and happy in their relationship that they don't feel the need to spice things up in such a radical manner. Of course the flip side of that is the argument that 'regular' couples don't have the strength in their relationship to allow their partners to swing and still feel secure.

At the end of the day I say, to each their own. If you want to swing, swing. If you don't, don't. I'm sure there are some swingers out there with amazing rock solid relationships. Equally I'm sure there are some swingers out there that are fed up with their marriage and just want to be with someone else.

There are also married couples that don't swing who are blissfully happy, and others who are unbelivably sad.

Answer 5

Not sure how you have arrived at that conclusion. How can a marriage be considered strong when the core marriage vow is broken in a swinger's life style?

You know the part in the ceremony where each of you pledge your bodies to one another only until you die.

Answer 6

swingers in marriages are honest and open to each other. Swingers accept their spouses "as is." But then again, who really knows?

Answer 7

They don't in my opinion. They are using that to release the tension that staying in a loveless marriage causes. If you truly love someone, you would not want to share that person with anyone else.

Answer 8

Who said they do? maybe it seems that way because they are a small percentage of the population

Answer 9

I don't agree that they necessarily have stronger marriages.However I do believe that for some couples it can work, but they are the minority.

Answer 10

They have complete trust and respect in one another.