Im like 15 weeks pregnant and this is me and my partners first, and I feel hes not being very supportive, He gose out of town for work and I only see him on weekends, or once every two weeks, when he is in town he always gose out drinking and I dont even wanna think of what hes doing,, he says I dont care but im trying to do whatever to make this work & I dont wanna be alone and could not ever a baby with anyone eles...
Hes not even saving any money up yet, and I never ask him for anything, I just dont know if this relationship is gonna last and if it dose I have a feeling this is going to make my pregnantcy a living hell..
What should I do.....
2007-11-01 18:06:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
sorry to hear what your going through sweetie...pregnancy is stressful enough, and men dont understand that all the time. Maybe try getting him involved a little bit...for example, say next weekend when you come home lets go look at cribs, and baby items...or talk about baby names and what he likes...ask what he is hoping for...stuff that will hopefully make him understand that it is his baby too...if he doesnt want to be involved with it at all maybe its best to not be with him. I know that its hard to think about, but you have to think of your self and your baby. Do you really want your child growing up with a dad that isnt ever around bc he is always out of ton or drinking? Just try not to stress out, and take care of your self...u need to stay healthy so your baby will stay healthy. Dont worry about your bf either if he wants to be a part of the babies life he will come around and if not there is someone out there that WILL want to be with you and your baby. Congrats and good luck!
2007-11-01 18:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing! What a situation to be in while your pregnant... or for that matter any other time as well BUT really makes it hard when your pregnant. I would sit him down and have a chat with him. He needs to know what your feelings are and try not to start the conversation out in a negative way just simply tell him what you have been feeling. When you are pregnant you need all the support and attention you can get. As far as saving up for the baby, my hubby & I were not very good at that either. What we did was buy stuff for the baby through out my pregnancy. At your baby shower you will gets lots of baby stuff too. Good luck to you... I wish you all the best. Hang in there girlie!
2007-11-01 18:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by ladybug 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound very good to me, try explaining how you feel, how you want things to be, make a compromise. If it makes your situation worse, it's time to go. Do not be afraid to find a superior like a doctor or counselor to get advice from, they know you better than we do, but from what I have read, he seems a bit like a loser, and probably will not change for the better.
Pregnancy and babies are a gift from above, you should focus on your baby and positive thoughts to help pass the time instead. I'm sorry you are going through this, unfortunately, a lot of ladies do, I'm sure you could find a support group or at least someone to talk to. Good luck :-).
2007-11-01 18:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by chichibomba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
read over your statements above a couple of times and you will see you already have the answer. The guy's no good.
You're in a single mom and dead-beat dad situation. Going out to party and drink is his life priority. Lean on your best family and friends for support. Consider adoption if you have no help at all. You are so young!! You are not finished being a child yet. The human brain is not finished developing until 18 or so. Seek a counselor, teacher, doctor, or pastor if there is any way--to help you.
2007-11-01 18:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound good. First find out why he thinks you don't care. Ask him to be more supportive and take the pregnancy and the realtionship serious.To start saving money and planning because the baby will come faster then you both think. If he doesn't step up and be there for you and show he wants to take responsibility. If all that doesn't happen, it may be time to accept that you will be single with a kid.
2007-11-01 18:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by what were you expecting? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a tough one.
i hope he gets his act together, but if he does not you need to do whatever necessary to take care of the baby yourself.
Do you think he is capable of being a good father and partner?
If so, he needs to start contributing NOW!
If not, you need yo get rid of him ASAP!
Maybe he's in denial about the pregnancy.
He might need something to shake him up - the threat of loosing you might do the trick.
I suggest that you tell him to either shape up or hit the road. Once you get rid of him you can go after him for child support. You should talk to a lawyer if it comes to that. I hope it does not.
It sounds like you are in for a difficult time. Try to stay focused on your baby and don't get too upset. Be determined to do what is best for your child. You will be OK.
Good luck to you!
2007-11-01 18:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all congratulations! My advice (as I did at one point have to think about these things too), is that you find yourself a lot of support in other people, family, friends, the health care practitioner your going to or a support group, in case your partner does not come through for you. There is also counseling for couples who are dealing with pregnancy and maybe not come to terms with it yet. If he's totally not into it, after talking through the matter, maybe you want to go solo and be a single mum, its better to stress about a baby on your own, than to stress about a baby and a wondering partner on your own. So find yourself some supportive people to help you in case of need!
2007-11-01 18:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by lampost blues 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a jerk, and unfortunately- that is not something you can fix. As hard as it will be you will mostly not be able to depend on him during your pregnancy and after (hopefully I'm wrong) My suggestion is to seek the help of your friends and family and try to focus on being a mother, not a gf. Sometimes after seeing an ultrasound things can turn around- give him the opportunities to be a part of your pregnancy, but don't count on him.
2007-11-01 18:17:36 · answer #8 · answered by s e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry!!!
I think you probably already know where your relationship is going... He doesn't exactly sound like he will be there for you when the baby is born either.
...But only you can really decide what to do.
I wish you all the luck in the world!!!
2007-11-01 19:00:19 · answer #9 · answered by BTB{06.22.09} 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you do?
It's too late now, your having a baby.
2007-11-01 18:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋