can a good marrage survive after one goes out. on the one that has remained faitful all throught it no matter how.when the one who has cheated.and told her.children she had the affair with her own home while every one was away. from the home .an having .4.children ages range from.11. to. 19. years old t.boys. two. girls the childrens age as well a husband who filed for divorce can this ever work out. at all when she.s in her.40.s and fooling around with a man in his late teen.s and tryig to tell her children it was a axxident as to having a sexual affair with who she cheated with .does this woman think her family is that stupid to belive it was a axxident
2007-11-01 17:57:23 · 14 answers · asked by matthew v 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when this happens in a marrage and children are involved. and to say accedent. no i really dont think so in many cases it usual ends the marrage. where there was once a respect by the spouce that didnt do that to many good marrages have ended on things like this a accedent. i think not was it a accident that caused this person to spread there legs. open no. if was lust that .s fact. my opion? no hope...
2007-11-01 18:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Late teens.....not a man. If she's in her 40s and doing this, then I could say that she is having serious issues. This is not even a double standard. A man doing this would also be having serious issues. If he's under 18, then it's illegal.
Sure its possible that a good marriage can survive this. She has to be completely honest about the situation, about her intent to be faithful, ask for forgiveness and then wait until her actions prove that she is truthful. Recovering from this kind of thing takes a long time and if she is willing to put in the time, then it can work out.
Things won't be the same, but through work, it can be good again....years go by though.
2007-11-01 18:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like a painful situation for everyone... try to look at the situation with compassion. i am not sure who you are in this picture but you sound confused and angry...
here are some facts to help you feel more compassionate:
most women who are in their 40's that have four children are being sexually neglected by their husbands.
a woman that age is sexually actually more similarly attuned to a young man (because a woman's testerone levels are much higher at that age than they are for a young woman...)
it might work out... if there is forgiveness and compassion... and a way to reignite the passion within the marriage-- marriage is not just about vows and duty, passion is the glue that keeps people together...
without those key ingredients...
it might not work out... because cheating is a betrayal of trust. but i read recently that being unavailable within the relationship (physically "loyal" but neglectful) was a form of cheating...
so that is something to think about, at least...
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2007-11-01 18:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Serena T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly. You don't have an affair in a good marriage. Only in a bad one.
Secondly. Those who say that the marriage can survive are like a person half way through a flight saying that the journey was successful, because they haven't crashed yet.
2007-11-01 18:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let me get this straight before I post my answer..... Ive looked over your profile page because I didnt know whether you were legit in what you were saying...
To my understanding you had an affair 5yrs ago with this 40yr old mother of 4 - your wife found out and is now leaving your a$$ because of it - she (your wife) is now leaving you for her (the 40yr old you had an affair with) husband and this is why your pissed!!!
now for my answer and I'll try to be as honest as I can...... Its your own fault and no amount of dissing the 40 year old will bring your wife back.... you are bitter and twisted to blame anyone for the failure of your own marriage, my advice learn from your own mistakes, it takes two to tango..... wake up and start looking into your own misgivings and leave this woman alone.... yep sure she had an affair with you and make no mistake she will be paying for it big time...... grown up and man up to your own resposibilities........ what comes around goes around!!! and dude its coming to you 10 fold..... I have no pity for a dumb a$$ who blames this other woman for the breakup of his own marriage!!!
oh and just another observation.... are you and 'the_silverfoxx' one in the same person?? it seems awfully like it since he gets best answer to most of your questions not to mention you both type the same way and spell the same..... shezzzz dude *shakes head*
2007-11-01 18:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by ashar/97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did her affair happen...someone accidentally fell into her vagina? I don't think so. Trust has been violated and only the person who was stepped out on can decide whether to live with that or not!
2007-11-02 02:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by Really now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
affairs can happen in good and bad marriage...it doesnt necessarily happen becoz something is missing...there could be other causes or several causes...first...identify the cause...second look at her behaviour...is she remorseful...is this the first time....how is she acting now? is she making up to u or does she blame u? if she is not remorseful and try to justify her actions perhaps its a character flaw and best consider leaving...its up to u....think of the pros and cons also...gd luck
2007-11-01 19:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by Sony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you are that stupid to be on here asking the question. Your woman needed more you couldn't give it to her so she got it else where you know guys do this to women all the time so get over it and be glad you have kids and you have life so go live it only this time find a woman you can please.
2007-11-01 18:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, a marriage can survive anything if you are willing to be stomped on, used, abused, cheated on, and degraded.
2007-11-01 18:01:44 · answer #9 · answered by onceisenoughilearnedmylesson 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no phuck that. termites are products of shitt and could die they don't have the best suited to consume and stay to tell the tale thinking their existence is usually a million month oh and NO bugs need to stay
2016-10-03 03:57:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋