I am married to a wonderful woman and have a beautiful family. I am becoming friends with a lady at work, probably the first real female friend I have had at work since I started. My line of work can be isolating at times and so I really enjoy conversation and an ocassional lunch with this person. We have a lot in common and a lot to talk about. We are probably equals in a lot of ways and that is why I think we connected. I wonder if there is a potential of turning into something unplatonic. I wouldn't initiate or want something like that. I know it would be too painful and destructive. Has this happened to you? I do not want that to happen. How do I keep myself out of trouble. Are we both just pretending that we can just be friends? Should I just give her the cold shoulder.
2007-11-01 17:40:01 · 10 answers · asked by wakefullife 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give her the cold shoulder. How would you feel if your wife was having a platonic relationship with a guy like your platonic relationship? Better sever the connection now, as it will only grow stronger with every passing minute. With guys and girls, "just friends" only lasts so long. Seen it happen lots of times. Guy and a girl start hanging out more and more, and soon they're kissing and dating.
Save yourself a lot of trouble and heartbreak, as well as making the right and moral decision.
If you need your wife, call her. Talk to her. Let her know.
2007-11-01 17:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by asdf 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess really just ask yourself what would you want your wife to do if she was in your situation??? Why don't you take your wife out to lunch. It sounds like you already have feelings for that woman, or your already thinking about it. So really you are already cheating your wife out of the truth of who you are spending your time with .. I would be a bit PIZZED OFF if my husband went to lunch more than once with a woman from work and she is the only one he is talking with.. Or may I say choosing to talk with. Soon the people at work will see you and her together so much that if there is a x-mas party or something they will see your wife and go Oh I didin't think you were married. Rumors will fly. Does your wife deserve that.
Is she at home with the kids????? You do have a lot to loose-----YOUR REPUTATION & SELF RESPECT>
Be careful.
2007-11-02 00:51:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband started a platanoic relationship with someone at church. It initially started when I was sick and they were discussing my illness. She sympothised with him. Then they continued to talk and connected because they had things in common. They then started text messaging, talking on the phone and e-mailing. They kept telling my husband and her husband they were just good friends. With my husband saying it had been a rough year-and he just needed someone to talk to.
Let's just say it didn't get physical, but it got very emotional and to the point it should never have gotten.
Be careful. I kind of agree with another answer, if you have to ask then it is going somewhere in your mind.
Good luck!
2007-11-02 01:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Frieds? not for long...The question alone says you do think it could stay just friends. Like your life now? you know Job, Family? If Yes. Then cut back on the paling around..
2007-11-02 00:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you weren't already thinking about a relationship with her, you wouldn't be asking this question. So your answer is no, you can't have a platonic relationship with that woman.
2007-11-02 00:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can stay platonic. If you want it to. If you really value your wife and family, and think you might want something else, do the right thing, and stay away.
2007-11-02 01:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by S-A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have already started thinking about having sex with her. Sometimes the worse lies are the ones we tell ourselves.
2007-11-02 08:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to lose your wife and kids, stay away from the wh0re at work!
2007-11-02 01:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will stay platonic if you love and respect your wife.
That's the bottom line.....once you throw that away it's over.
If you think you maybe tempted....stay away from her.
2007-11-02 00:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, if you keep your pants on
2007-11-02 01:02:33 · answer #10 · answered by onceisenoughilearnedmylesson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋