i can't leave on emotion.i want to make sure i have a place lined up and so on.
i really need help on staying in control and stick to my choice.not to give in again in other words because he wants to be nice now.i cry easy.he disrespects me and it hurts.tips please.advice?experience anything?please.
2007-11-01 17:32:25 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thank you all
2007-11-01 18:25:51 · update #1
Start saving money on the side and dont spend it and when you have enough saved then leave.
you should alwasy look out for your self first.
I have been there and there is never a good enough reason to stay in a realationship isf he treats you like crap.
good luck sweety
2007-11-01 17:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy79 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have a right to a good life
just because he doesnt live right does not mean you do not have the right to a good life
a person that doesnt love themself cannot offer love to any one else because they dont really have it to give
If you do not change your situation within the next month you will be a month older and still in the same situation
with month by month passing by, in ten years you could be ten years older and still in the same situation still without a real life
There is no other person, organization, religion, or government or government agency that is as responsible for your life and it's situations as YOU are
The past does not exist - you cannot turn and point for me at even just one hour ago - it is gone - finnished ... nor can you point to any future except with just words - futures are only extractedout of NOWS -- now is the only gifted present that exists.. now is where you should be living in what you want as your life.. there is never any other time for anything
The sun rises on the new day and even on cloudy days the bird sing with joy of being alive
coming out on the other side of a period of trial and tribulation into the peace and freedoms of life is a joy worth holding on to in your heart such that every movement and every thought and every decision step by step brings you closer and closer to your goal untill suddenly it is just the ordinary fact of life
I send you these words to let you know that this guy writing these words wishes you well
Enjoy what you do
and that which is around you that you do not enjoy
will already begin to be not so real
you are powerful
make your decision
aim for your goal
and all of Providence itself
shall be the winds at your back urging you forward
PS
there may in your area or perhaps in an even better area be what are referred to as "safe houses" where women can go to be free of abusive partners until they are able to stand on their own two feet
2007-11-01 17:54:25 · answer #2 · answered by genntri 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 13:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you'd be leaving on emotion. You say that he disrespects you and it hurts. Is this something that has been ongoing or is the first time? I am suspecting that it is ongoing. If it is ongoing that tells me that you wouldn't be leaving on an emotional whim. It also tells me that after the dust settles you fall back into the same routine until he does something that 'disrespects' you. The only disrespecting going on in this scenario is you disrespecting yourself.
Leave the situation asap and then concentrate on getting to know yourself and loving yourself and you will surely find someone to love. First your self, then your world will be wide open.
2007-11-01 17:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by shreddez 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can either leave or learn to like the abuse. There is no sense in complaining to friends and family about the jerk. You know deep down inside that it's time to go. If you were serious about leaving you would just do it. There will never be a good time to go. You will know when you have had enough. Don't be that woman that has nothing to talk about but some jerk guy!!!
2007-11-01 17:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by trish33181 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get out of it... you've learned from experience that things aren't going to change. Every one deserves a second chance and sometimes a third but it sounds to me like you've given this guy a dozen. It hurts to be alone but it's worse to be in a dead end relationship. Dump him and hang out with your girlfriends for a while. It sucks for a bit but you'll get over it. No pain, no gain, as they say.
So..... just do it.
2007-11-01 17:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by Laibach 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well who ever said marriage,relationships,loves,life, or anything was easy? Anything that is done good takes work and time. Unless they have a microwave for life now. But seriously it takes two people to make a relationship work.
Get counseling if he doesn't think it will work then he's not trying ether.
2007-11-01 18:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by shadow of life. 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you two live together? If you don't, then just break up with him and tell him how you feel about your relationship together. If you live together, start saving your money so that you have somewhere to go. What about your parents? sisters? Leave before you get so so deep that you can't. or are you? THINK ABOUT YOU!!
2007-11-01 17:37:51 · answer #8 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear that is not good at all...first of all are you married to him?? if so then it is going to be harder for you to get out...maybe you could suggest getting marriage counseling? just to see if that helps at all...but if you are not married to him i cant understand why you would still be in that relationship? you don't love him? you don't like him? you have been with him through all the tough times? or is it simply you have grown away from him? it is your life and you are in control..if you want to get out of this then go, if you want to make it work with help then get help...the choice of your future is in your hands...good luck with your decisions...
2007-11-01 17:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and find a caring man like me
2007-11-01 17:35:23 · answer #10 · answered by Latino 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋