my boyfriend calls me a dirty B...., a W...., a S....., and a C..... in bed, is it just dirty talk and fantasy talk, or is it verbal abuse ?
please tell me what you think......
2007-11-01 17:14:39 · 8 answers · asked by psychic clara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it depends how he says it, if he says it in a seductive-playful manner, it's probably dirty talk. If he says it it a snub better-than-thow attitude, it's probably abuse. But even if it is just dirty talk, if you don't like it, let him know. Tell him you don't mind the dirty talk( if you really don't) but you wish he wouldn't take it so far too the point of being insulting. If he continues anyway, LOOSE HIM, and fast. People that are verbally abusive, usually don't just stop there. If they get away with that, it may not be very long until he become physically abusive as well.
2007-11-01 17:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by Shadow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If its only in bed then its just fantasy and dirty talk. A lot of men do that. You can't really let it get to you. If it bothers you though you should ask him to stop.
2007-11-02 00:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by Yuzuki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would think that it is sexual dirty talk. my husband and i say stuff that we wouldn't say other wise. i don't take it personal and hold it against him when we are not in bed.
but if you are questioning it then you must not like it. or maybe you were just thinking of a question to ask and that's all you came up with...lol.
either way. i love to hear those kinds of things because it brings out the animal in us.
you know like when animals do it they make weird noises..(like cats) so i look at the dirty talk like animals making noise.
2007-11-02 00:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by neverlie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If its strictly in bed, its probably just dirty talk. He likes dominating you. There's nothing wrong with that as long as it doesn't bother you, and it seems as if it does. Maybe you should ask him to tone it down a little if it offends you.
2007-11-02 00:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by kyliekissesx 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if it turns you on, then it's dirty talk; do it back to him, I guarantee he'll dig it. He might be doing be doing it in hopes that you will respond the same way, but he's too shy to ask you to do it.
But if you don't like it, then TELL HIM so. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable and you feel belittled. hopefully it's just number one- it can be pretty hot...
2007-11-02 00:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he says those things only in bed? But still it seems too much.
2007-11-02 00:18:28 · answer #6 · answered by serene 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it all depends on how you take it.. of you dont like it then tell him and if it continues.. its abuse.. If you like it then go with it sweetheart.
2007-11-02 00:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by alison w 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
cERTAINLY NOT GENTLEMANLY!!!
2007-11-02 02:20:46 · answer #8 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋