i am 16 and just recently began to have sex with my boyfriend. well tried...... everything was good but it was too fast that he couldnt get in. it was unprotected...yes insane i know and im so lucky that nothing happened. but my mom and i are very close and i tell her alot of everything. but this im scared to tell her. i know that she will freak out and i wish she wouldnt but its a parent. but i know that she will call his mother and tell her and his parents are very strict because this is how my bf was born..... but Im scared because i want to be able to still see him and i still want to be able to have a life. i mean its natural right? parents cant keep us from this kind of stuff. it would have happened sooner or later. but i just feel terrible keeping my mom out of this big part of my life. so please no yellin at me for being stupid because i am fully aware. i just want to know how to tell her that her 16 year old daughter just lost her v-card.
2007-11-01 17:06:38 · 9 answers · asked by hunny_boo_boo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you guys are really helping me. but its harder than you think. it was 3 weeks into the relationship and i still dunno now the right TIME to tell her. idk if i will bc im promising myself that it wont happen again for awhile bc virginity is G-ds most precious gift.
2007-11-04 05:46:43 · update #1
Hiya...I had my child at 16 and i can tell you its not the path you will want to go down and you lose such a huge part of your life...ok so you will use a condom or go on the pill? even better use both forms of protection...When my daughter was 16 she came to me to tell me she was sexually active all i could think about was "oh my" she gunna be a young mum aswell...so i gave her the same advice I'm giving you STAY VERY PROTECTED!!! and on the other side of things ya mum will already no that something is up,she not stupid so it may be a good plan to tell her that you are considering experimenting with sex and you need her help in staying safe..even tho you have already tried and not got there yet, it is a good idea to say you are thinking about it...let her face this next step in your life with you don't do it behind her back as that hurts us mums so much more than finding out the truth...please be mature about this with ya mum...if you think you are mature enough for sex then you must be mature enough to tell your mum and face the consequence's....best of luck for your future....
2007-11-01 17:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
technically your cherry isn't popped just yet. And please use a condom next time. If your mom is like my mom...she already knows. Something about our demeanor just changes and moms seem to sense this. It's freaky how much my mother knows without my telling her. And if your mom is like mine, she'll understand. Granted, I lost my virginity much later than you did. At your age, you're still a minor and I suppose parents would be more concerned and strict about it. If you really feel the need to tell her, simply ask if you can confide in her and make her feel guilty about hearing the truth. Something like, "Mom, the only reason I'm telling you this is because you know I tell you everything. I don't like keeping secrets from you and I really want you to understand my feelings about this." Go from there i suppose. And I don't know your mom, but I don't think she'll sabatoge your relationship like that by calling his parents. That's just mean. Good luck...and use protection.
2007-11-01 17:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if i wanna live i dont tell my mom anything but this suation its better to sit down and talk about things or if u want u can talk to someone else u trust like the guaidance consuler, a friend's mother, ur neighbor etc. its not nautral to be having sex at a young age. its better to wait until u get married or u'll gonna end up doing something u regret. ur parents know what ur going through which is why they tell u to wait to have sex.
2007-11-01 17:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by Chantel J 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can sit there and prepare til the end of time what you're going to say, but until you're sitting across from your Mother, you're not going to have any idea what to say to her. Make sure it's a good day for you both, and make sure no one else is there but you and your Mother, she may act different if other people are there. However, it's good you want to tell her, so you can get protected, just make sure you do it before it's too late, and be careful until then.
2007-11-01 17:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by tothinesownselfbetrue_x3 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Write her a note, maybe it will be easy er for you this way. Explain to her what happened and ask her not to scream at you, but that you want to have a talk with her. Let it all out. Hopefully she would understand and give you some good advise. What ever you do, please listen to your mom. I'm not gonna tell you that what you did was wrong, you know that already. It's only wrong in the way that you are way too young for this. Way, way too young. Talk to your mom.........
2007-11-01 17:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by Esther 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mom and I are really close and when I first had sex, I just came right out and told her. She was okay with it. She kind of expected it to happen at some point
2007-11-01 17:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your very smart n very mature,,, i applaud u,, but dont tell her just yet,, keep her outta the loop for a while longer even tho its killing u,,
when the time is right to tell her u will no,,
so good luck n continue along the path ur on,,,, u r a really smart n promising young lady,, good luck
just dont be a skank *** hoe,,,( as in dont sleep around TOO much, but n joy urself)
2007-11-01 17:19:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
why would you want your parents to know that you have sex?
2007-11-02 06:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by sugarpie2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
MOM, look, I like this boy & we are haveing sex, I need condoms ,Please. Be easy with your self!! your mom loves you!!!
2007-11-01 17:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by happywjc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋