Would you continue doing things for people when no one has ever expressed their appreciation for your kindness?
Do you need to feel appreciated?
Care to share?
2007-11-01 16:58:16 · 34 answers · asked by shahrizat 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Great, great answers, all of you! I simply MUST say "thank you" for the time you have taken to answer this simple question of mine, though many of you might say that you do not expect it.
For me, I believe that both Kindness and Courtesy should both be inherent within us, where these values would unfold naturally in the way we relate to others without us even having to consider addressing them in our actions or otherwise. As natural as breathing, as some would say.
I thank also one answerer by the name of Sin who has deleted his answer, which I was fortunate enough to have read before it disappeared. It was a good answer. And thank you, Banshee, for your foresight in saving his answer before he even thought of removing it!
Once again, thanks, all. Until my next.
2007-11-09 04:11:33 · update #1
The question isn't really about the "thank you", its about the motivation for the "act of kindness". If in fact the only motivation for the act of kindness is the recognition of that act by the recipient then it's really not about kindness - it's about ego. Kindness is a state of mind that should be a part of our every day behavior. It should be engendered by respect, love, consideration, and contemplation of the fact that life has placed us in a position to better the situation of others - to help change their lives in a positive way (regardless of their station in life). Expecting recognition for such an act in fact cheapens it.
2007-11-02 03:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by Ted C 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The Words "Thank You" Definately Vocalize That The Receiver Appreciates The Act of Kindness, Rather than Not Being Said, Leaves the Giver Feeling The Act Went Unappreciated, Almost Like Saying If it Went Undone There Wouldn't Have Been Any Difference.
2007-11-02 07:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If ever there was a thing of kindness I had done consciously or subconsciously, it was because of love or the side feelings that came with it like compassion or sharing what i had. When I give, I do it fast and turn my back without knowing if it is appreciated or reciprocated with a word of thanks. That is not my aim in giving. I just let it get blown in the wind to reach Him who most deserves the praise. Why would it matter to hear the words when the heart already feels the touch of joy? Doesn't the the garden bloom still even when the sun has turned away?
"Thank you!"
2007-11-01 18:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't need to hear the words thank you but what I do need is to see a result from my act of kindness such as a look of happiness on someones face or any kind of reaction that means that my act of kindness has reverberated in the world. Then I feel happy in return and the cycle is so complete. It's not necessarily a conscious reaction on any body's part at all. That is not whta I mean. It can be something very subtle and unconscious.
2007-11-01 17:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine any better way to express how I feel, than achenbreakin's beautiful answer.
& the most beautiful?
"Doesn't the garden bloom still even when the sun has turned away"?
Kindness isn't kindness, if one requires expressions (especially verbal) of appreciation. This is something like what I have always believed: The only true gift is given anonymously.
2007-11-07 16:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by Valac Gypsy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I do things for others because it's at the core of my beliefs that we must do what we can to make the earth better than it was when we got here, I do that mostly through helping others and by teaching my children to do so also. I get my thanks by how it makes me feel and the since of fulfillment that I get by helping people. IF you want a thank you for everything that you do than don't live among other people. you won't get it. Most people are to caught up in their own lives to even realize when someones helped them out. Just do it because it's the right thing to do and you'll get your satisfaction from knowing that you're helping make the world better.
2007-11-01 19:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kathryn R 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with what Sin says but by the time you read my answer you may not know what his answer was because he always removes his great answers. If that happens I will repost his answer (which I have copied) and then get the credit for his Best Answer heh heh. I am kidding of course.
2007-11-03 21:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by Banshee 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hello, A thank you from the heart justifies your caring manner towards people, Yes because that is them and i am me, A thank you always brings a smile of appreciation and a good feel factor. Thank you for reading my answer,xx
2007-11-05 03:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, doing nice things just to be apreciated is nothing. A true act of kindness requires no reward. If you are truly being kind, you do not need a "thanky ou" or anything like that.
Of course, sometimes it is nice to be appreciated every once and a while.
2007-11-08 11:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by Patrick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my opinion no person get poorer or smaller by saying just 2 words and after that the satisfactions on the otherpersons face can expresses it all.
I would not quite it ever
2007-11-02 02:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by rated 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋