I am engaged to a woman who I have been dating for 9 years on and off. We have a 3 year old daughter and a 12 year old
(she had from a previous relationship). Lately she has been real short tempered with me. I work two jobs and am only home for a little time. I have been recently suspicous that she has been seeing a guy that lives on the same street. She will leave the house and he will leave the house only a short time after she does. When she comes back, he comes back not too long after. It hasn't been until I have started to notice this, that she gets a attitude when ever she is around me. She will come in the house and get an attitude out of no where and want to leave. She will then leave and then the neighbor will leave. She has had this non chalant attitude with me and will not talk any problems out with me (she will act like a child and walk off or drive off). Lately, even when I have a day off she will try to find a way to leave either through argument. What do I do?
2007-11-01 16:39:11 · 10 answers · asked by xxaveragejoexx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's giving you some very clear signals that all is not well in River City. The handwriting is one the wall and I think you know what it says.
Engaged to a woman for nine years even though you have a kid together? Someone has commitment issues which is probably the seed to the problems between you now.
2007-11-01 16:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The "on and off" for 9 yrs? what was the problems there? Does she have a history of cheating? Now for the problem, You have taken notice, time to start with the detective work. Don't accuse her of cheating unless you know she's cheating. 97%of men that think there wife is cheating....... are correct she's cheating. But don't confront her till you have all the evidence. Also, you need to think about what you're going to do if you're right and she is cheating. Alot of people find out someone is cheating then have no idea what they're going to do after they confront the other person. What will you do with whats before you? Think things through long and hard. Good Luck
2007-11-01 23:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you asked God what you should do? He is faithful and never changes. You can never go wrong with HIS advise. Do you have concrete evidence against her? What kind of mother is she? Have you ever cheated on her? What kind of girlfriend was she before you asked her to marry you? What made you ask her to marry you? These are a few of the many questions you can ask yourself to help you get an anwser. No one in this site knows all the details which may have lead to you having to ask this question. There is always more to the story. If you are working two jobs, when do you have time to see all of this coming and going? There had to be something about her that made you want to marry her. I hope you make the right decision.
Good Luck and God Bless
2007-11-02 10:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get proof before accusing her of cheating although from what you say, it could be. If you find out she is, confront and break off the engagement and don't marry, but take care of your child. If not, definitely get premarital counseling.
I wish for your child that things will work out and that she has both of her parents - I know that's not always possible.
Recommend the book Divorce Busters which includes info on dealing with cheaters.
Joy to you.
2007-11-01 23:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not willing to deal with things like an adult, then she definitely isn't ready for marriage. How long does she need anyway she's got a 12 year old. What happened with the 12 year olds father? Don't marry her until she's willing to act like an adult, and even then when she's readyu to not run off with her "richard" in a jar from down the street. I would move out or have her move out to top it off.
2007-11-01 23:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call Cheaters let them find out what shes doing
2007-11-02 00:34:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to find a woman who will leave her house shortly after you and get home after you reached yours.why should you get the hell in your house?
2007-11-01 23:52:20 · answer #7 · answered by robeen c from MAURITIUS 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Forget all that #@!^
You have a children. Focus all of your efforts, thoughts, prayers on the children.
The world will have enough strippers when they are 18!
Good luck.
2007-11-01 23:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Sounds sus. Are you sure he's not her relative or confidante (maybe he's gay?), or not simple coincidence? If she really is having an affair, don't marry her.
2007-11-01 23:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
follow her when she leaves or follow him when he leaves find out what the heck is going on with that
2007-11-01 23:48:46 · answer #10 · answered by melanie o 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋