I have a question about choosing to become homosexual?

Question

First of all, I'd like to ensure that I would never ever want to offend anybody by asking this ignorant question.
I'd like to know if it's true someone who chooses to become a lesbian or gay commits themselves to live homosexual life rather than heterosexual generally because they find it more difficult to be loved by the opposite sex than the same sex?
For example, superficially unattractive women get hurt by men in past and alternatively choose the same gender to be in love with instead of the opposite ones.
Does it sound plausible or controversial?

Answer 1

There could be the conscious choice to be gay, but usually it is an unconscious choice propelled by strong sexual feelings targeted toward the same sex. But yes, I am sure that some do make a conscious choice to be gay, or at least to allow repressed homosexual tendencies to manifest (we all have some degree of repressed same sex attraction). This same sex attraction is generally blocked by feelings of disgust, just as one would feel disgust when contemplating incest.

Answer 2

I don't think people choose. I think sexual orientation is part of who a person is. I don't think only unattractive people are homosexual. Case in point...I think Ellen DeGeneres is a very attractive woman; certainly, no one would call her unattractive. And I don't agree that anyone "chooses" a gay lifestyle because they find it easier to be loved by the same sex. Love is seldom easy, no matter which sex you are dealing with; there are the same problems and conflicts in homosexual as well as heterosexual relationships. I don't think you are offending anyone, as you are honestly asking a question. That I disagree with you should not offend you. I doubt, though, that my views on the subject are scarcely an answer for you. I just find your theory neither plausible nor controversial.

Answer 3

Controversial. What you are suggesting by this statement is that homosexuality is a choice. If you were to do any studying up on teenage homosexuality you would find that most teenagers initially have feelings of confusion when they realize they are attracted to the same sex. There is a conflict between what society tells them is "normal" to what they are actually feeling.

I don't think that people choose to be homosexual because of being repeatedly being hurt by the opposite sex.

Answer 4

Well actually they believe that gay guys have it in their genes to be the way they are. Lesbians, however, are environmentally that way. So in other words if a woman has a bad past with men, like being raped as a child or something along those lines, then they have no want to be with a man. This is what I learned in my class, it just depends on the gender on if it is a decision or not...or what I learned and what the scientists say is what they have discovered. It seems controversial to me, especially with the lesbian part, but I have personally never been in a situation where I would want to become a homosexual so I cannot speak for them. Everyone is their own person and should be left that way.

Answer 5

In life I have seem it happen with females, they've lost at love with men and have chosen to be with women instead to prevent from being hurt again. The truth is that it will happen again b/c that's the ways love goes. So if you're thinking it makes a difference it doesn't. People are always trying to avoid pain not realizing that pain in this life is inevitable,
Painful experiences are the one that can make us or break us . If we learn from the painful experience we will be all the wiser and stronger for it.
I don't believe people are born gay I believe its a choice for whatever the cause of the indivual.
Please don't think I am against gays I have friends that are gay and I love dearly but I do wish them to be straight for less complications.

I am hoping that my answer was helpful.

Answer 6

People choose that because they feel better with the same sex.....it's not a matter of being ugly or something...you just feel you should have been born the other sex.What's more before knowing they are homos these people are usually attracted by the same sex much more that the opposite.Like you suddenly notice that you look in a 'special way' to boys/girls/ much more than to the right sex.

Answer 7

Being homosexual is basically a predetermined trait. You can "act" like you're gay but you will never BE gay just because you experiment. In general, you cannot "choose" to BE gay, only "choose" to ACT gay. You are gay or straight FROM BIRTH. People who all of a sudden "choose" a gay lifestyle were probably really always gay and CHOSE to lead a straight lifestyle, against their nature.


And insinuating that ugly chicks choose to be lesbians because men don't want them is ridiculous and VERY steriotypical. Most lesbians have higher standards than straight men, why would they want ugly chicks either?

Obviously, very controversial.

Answer 8

If you choose to he heterosexual and get hurt, then because of the hurt decides to be homosexual...what happens when you get hurt by the same sex? Let's face it...People are going to be people weather male or female. I think becoming homosexual is a cop-out. We were intended to be coupled male and female.

Answer 9

Some researches support this kind of view of homosexuality arguing that there's no gay in early education such as preschools or primary schools. It means it's almost impossible the homosexuality is inherent, but is a conscious activity produced by social, cultural and ideological processes on one's own.

Answer 10

I think an experience may drive some one to experiment, but I don't believe that would "make" someone gay. It is thought, and there is a lot of scientific data that supports the idea that people are born with a sexual orientation. Your gay or straight-not a choice.