Rahhh im freaking 24 and my parents hate my boyfriend b/c of his job, b/c hes not a doctor or lawyer or whatever, he's a pest control agent. Regardless of how he treats me and I am happy, they hate him, causing uuber fighting matches. They haven't even tried to get to know him. And he knows they hate him...UGH! Any suggestions?
2007-11-01 16:14:55 · 9 answers · asked by chicabonita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you sure it is only his job your parents do not like. Maybe they see something in him you are missing and they do not want to see you hurt. However, you are old enough to make your own decisions you parents will not always be here to make decisions for you, and even if they were you are entitled to do your own thing. Sometimes you will make mistakes and you will learn to make better decisions because of your mistakes. I am not saying you are wrong about this man, I am trying to point out your parents want what they think is best for you, and that could be very different then what you think is best for you. Try to have a serious talk with your parents listen to what they have to say, and tell them to listen to what you have to say. Then it should be much easier to work through your differences. Good parents always want the best for their children but sometimes they forget the children may see the best in a different way.
2007-11-01 17:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by K K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh well, your parents are snobs. I think they're just worried that a pest control agent may not be able to support you financially, of course, you may not need financial support if you have your own career. If you do have your own career, talk to your parents and tell them that money is not an issue you for you and that he's genuinely a good guy worthy of a relationship with you. If they can't accept it, ah well.
Why ah well? Well, you see as an adult your parents know that you don't need them, but a large part of their identity is being your parent and perhaps part of the reason they had you was partially so that they would have someone to take care of them when they were old. Parents of adult children often fear pushing their offspring away and need you much more than you need them. In fact, if you're financially stable and independent, you don't need them at all!
2007-11-01 16:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat- kind of. Mine don't "hate", they just don't prefer. Same stuff too, not enough money, blah, blah, blah. No one has has been good enough for me and it started at about your age too. Good luck with this. Nothing you or he can do will make it better- so give up. We move a few states away. That makes it easier. They want what is best even though they don't realize what they are doing to you.
2007-11-01 16:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your grandparents. Find out juicy little morsels about your parents when they were young. What do your parents do for a living? Were they doctors and lawyers when they were in their 20s? They might just want the best for you, however you should tell them that's for you to decide, not them. Be like, mom, you don't sleep with him, I do....
2007-11-01 16:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There comes a time in everyone's life when you have to make a decision on your own even if your parents don't like your decision.
If this is a good man....and you care for him don't bring him around your parents.....but be with him anyway.
You can only make you happy.
2007-11-01 16:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 24...you're an adult. Make your own decisions.
Tell your parents that you love them very much but you will not tolerate any more conversations about their dislike for your boyfriend. And then leave each time they start up.
2007-11-01 16:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 24 and a grown up. If you love this guy then go for it. Unless he is abusive follow your heart and it will tell you what to do.
2007-11-01 16:29:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TREAT YOUR PARENTS WITH WELL RESPECT, AND ACT AS THOUGH IT'S NO BIG DEAL, THEY MAY COME AROUND AND THEY MAY NOT.. IT REALLY ISN'T THERE CHOICE TO MAKE, YOU ARE OVER 18 SO NOT MUCH THEY CAN DO ABOUT IT. A JOB ISN'T EVERYTHING, BUT YOUR HAPPINESS IS
2007-11-01 16:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by tucky1225 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love your parents no matter what and live your own life.
Good luck.
2007-11-01 16:18:07 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋