How can i get him to sit down and talk things over without making him think i am blaming it on him all the time?
2007-11-01 16:00:56 · 5 answers · asked by mix32 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Write him a letter.
2007-11-01 20:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my hubby has the same problem. guys tend to be really hardheaded and shut down when you bring up their flaws. just keep it short and simple and say, "i'd love it if you'd try your best to work on...." and let him know you realize you have flaws and tell him you're trying to work on the things you do that bother him too. and keep it short and sweet. oh, and never say, "i hate it when you..." because that's just asking for an argument. and remember it doesn't have to be a huge discussion or attack on him. just let him know you'd appreciate it if he'd work on it and leave it at that. even if he doesn't say anything or seems like he's ignoring you, it's in his head and he'll most likely give it some thought if you don't make him feel like he's being attacked.
2007-11-01 17:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to allow enough time for both of you to cool down. When you are angry, your tone sound accusatory. Let some time go by and tell him that you would like to discuss it.
When you do talk to him, don't point fingers unless you are pointing them at yourself. Change your sentence from "you always..." to "I feel...".
2007-11-01 16:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, honey it is hard to do! men do not like to talk about that kind of stuff!!! just start talking and tell him, i know i have my faults too, but i don't know what they are cause you never tell me!!! can we please talk about us!! then maybe he will, or maybe he won't but at least it's worth a try!
2007-11-01 16:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe-- just maybe-- you don't make sense to him when you talk!
2007-11-01 16:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by Averell A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋