If a man is married and is constantly unfaithful, has even had an affair, has had the opportunity to leave the marriage when the infidelity is exposed yet want to come back and yet continue to be unfaithful?
2007-11-01 15:46:39 · 21 answers · asked by mentaltornado 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because he is a selfish pig and she must have a low self esteem to let him come back. There is no way my husband would cheat and i take him back....
2007-11-01 15:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by beanodom 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In all honesty some men are just philanders while others may have a serious sex addiction. Many come back because they feel if you have forgiven them once that you will forgive them twice and you will tolerate their behavior because you have before. Some men just want the best of both worlds and do not want to be hit in the wallet through a divorce......so they go out on the side and hope they are never discovered. Some men are very self centered and only care to live in the moment when they make the choice to cheat on their wives. They don't think about the consequences of their actions untill they are caught. When this happens they panic and promise to be right only to often to take you back down that same road again.
2007-11-01 16:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she lets him. He has no consequenses to face. He also may have to much to loose financially if he has been married for a long time. I am in a situation where my bf keeps going back to his wife every time we have a fight or he doesnt like something i do. This has gone on for 10 months. I dont think he would continue his behavior if his wife didnt continuously call and beg him back. He feels guilty so he goes and trys to make the marriage work--it never lasts more than a week or two and then he wants to come back to me. I think the only way any man will stop their behavior with you is to put a stop to it yourself. He cant cheat on you if you arent with him anymore. But keep in mind that he will always cheat --but the next time it wont be on you.
2007-11-05 01:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by Southern Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known a few men like this and eventually the wife got fed up with taking them back and left him for good. The men were 'crying in their beer' over it. They never thought the wife would really leave. These men took many years to finally grow up and act responsibly; a couple even remarried their former wife and never cheated again. I believe that men who continue to cheat have a lack of self-esteem and self-value and need other women to make them feel desired and validated. They feel like a real man when they do this; but in reality they are just little boys.
2007-11-01 16:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called 80/20. His wife is the 80% and the 20% is what ever shes lacking the other woman makes up for. Hes selfish and he wants the 80% because he knows that shes a good wife but the 20%(the other woman) can do things to him that he wishes his wife could make him feel....but.....he knows that if he leaves that 80%(wife) he'll be up the creek...he knows 20% aint' even close to 50% and a long way from a 100%...he's selfish and maybe even addicted to women or even sex...he needs help.
2007-11-01 16:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by Shandlan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because he has a handy housekeeper to wash his clothes and clean up after him. Most women get stuck with the majority of the housework and if he divorced, he'd have to do all that hard work himself, or pay for it. If his wife works then he loses out financially that way as well, unable to split the bills.
If he's doing all of the housework or even most of it, then there is another reason, but otherwise I would expect it to be that being married is more convenient than not.
2007-11-01 15:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by smtrodent 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
A very good question. Men are habitual, moreso than women.
We are thinkers, they are doers.
Men get comfortable.
Kids can have a major impact on the decision to stay or to go.
As long as he is allowed to be what you call unfaithful, he will be.
You have to stand up for yourself and stand firm for what you believe in.
If you don't like it and he isn't about to leave, what is topping you from moving out?
2007-11-01 16:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by Casha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of the inconveniences of divorce...He`d have to spend money on the divorce, pay child support, clean his own house, risk everyone knowing his wrong doings. Do you think a man wants all these problems?? Not to mention it`s exciting and different than your ordinary sex with your wife kinda thing. Something is paying off for the husband.....I think all of the above. He`s having his cake and eating it. Why is he going to ruin his fun?? He doesn`t want to commit to the women, he wants sex.
2007-11-01 16:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by lost2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's having his cake and eating it too...and the wife allows him to do that by ignoring his unfaithfulness.
2007-11-01 15:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why should he leave? He's got it made. The question you should be answering is "Why are you letting him?" And PLEASE dont use the "I love him" line..........he obviously doenst love you enough to stay faithfull........and you never know what he is bringing home to you. Sorry to be so crude about it but I know if my partner cheated on me he would be out the door.
2007-11-04 03:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by margerita_nite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he likes the 'security' of the marriage - if his flings fall apart, he can always go back to his wife.
2007-11-01 15:53:06 · answer #11 · answered by Monkey007 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋