Has anyone of you had these certain feelings toward a person where you love them to death, but sometimes when you think about some of the stuff they've said or done it makes you Hate them so much. Of course the love overpowers the hate but sometimes you just wish they would get out of your life forever, but you know if they did you would miss them like hell. Am I the only person who has felt like this about someone or can you relate? How do you deal with this and who is this person to you?
2007-11-01 15:36:19 · 7 answers · asked by Toy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have felt like this towards my husband. I felt like this about 11 years ago when we were young ans stupid and had just met. We used to fight all the time. After all these years we have just gotten over fighting, I guess we grew up. Trust me though, I totally know how you feel.
2007-11-01 15:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My god this is the same exact feeling I have. I met my husband when I was 16 we been married for 3 months now I lovee him sooooooooooooooooooooooo much its hurts. Like he is my everthing I would give my life for him. But when he makes me mad or says things that hurt my feelings I get so angry that it ruins my whole day and I cry all day. When Im mad at him I hate him so much I even tell him "I hope you die soon or get hit by a car and get killed so you can die and I can actually miss you" LOL hahaha.I love him so much that like Im willing to give everything up for him. And when he does anything wrong or says mean things I will always end up forgiving him like in an instant, When I know he is mad at me I get an upset stomach and just feel so depressed and all I know is that I want him.(by the way we both live in different countries so we dont see each other as often) I totally feel the same like you I love the guy to death but when he pisses me off I just wish he would drop off the earth, but the next minute I want him by my side. I have actually wound up in the hospital once because he wouldnt talk to me for 1 month and he threatend to leave me. I cant eat and sleep or concentrate at work or school. Even if he fights with me all day and threatens to leave me all he has to tell me is that he loves me and I think of it like we never even fought. Whats funny is that he tried hookin up with me first and begged me to be his girlfriend and I refused and thought he was just so ughhhh. After just being with him 1 month I knew he was my life and this was the guy I was going to marry.
I will tell you the truth there is NO way to make it better because I been trying for the past 4 years and we are married now but Im still the same. He thinks im crazy but Im not. Its just LOVE and Its a real intense love. LOVE can make you do anything. Unfortunatley I dont think you can hate someone when you love them so much, Love will always empower first, like you said. The only thing I can suggest is to try to forget them and avoid them maybe it will help and in the long run you will grow distant from them. Maybe. I tried it for a month it didnt work...... hahahahah
2007-11-01 23:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by The girl next door 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never been there myself but know what you are saying. You have to accept that that person is two people, the one you love and the one that does the things that you hate. You have to realize that you can't love and hate a person at the same time. If you hate the things he is doing you have to accept that the love is for a myth, a person who does not exist, who would not do the things that you hate. Then it becomes time to move on, accept the love as a handicap, and try to find someone to love who you will not hate for what he does but love for loving you enough to not do those things.
2007-11-01 22:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely get what you mean. See, I went out with this girl, well she became the love of my life. We went out for 2 and 1/2 years. Then she broke up with me, I hated her for that. I wanted her to leave my life, I didnt want to her anymore. But I still felt for her and couldnt think going with my life without her. I didnt know how deal with this and I still dont. I hate having this feeling towards someone its very confusing at times, cause you want to know how they feel about you.
2007-11-01 22:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by Fernando 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate is a pretty strong emotion and word.
We dislike in others what we dislike about ourselves.
Love and hate I believe is like days with sun and rain.
We have to have one to know to appreciate the other.
Sometimes people need to be told when they have done something that hurt another.
You can choose to forgive, maybe forget too.
One will outweigh the other.
2007-11-01 23:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by Casha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ever seen "Fools Rush In" Selma Hayek's charachter say's "you are not my favorite person right now" describes what you are saying to a tee. without the hate part.
i love my husband no question. even when he pisses me off i run to the phone to see if it's him, when he comes home, my heart still jumps. pathetic? no, i love him too much to actually feel hate. but there are days when he is not my most favorite person. but it never makes me love him any less.
2007-11-01 23:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's my husband. I love my husband to death and we've only been married a year. He says and does things that really hurt my feelings. I'll forgive easily, but I never forget. He makes me laugh and feel good about myself too, but sometimes he drives me crazy and I drive him crazy as well. I guess it just comes with the marriage. He's my best friend and I honestly don't know what I'd do without him. Weird isn't it? How someone can mean the world to you but you just get so mad at him/her that you want to pull your hair out and scream?!?!
2007-11-01 22:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by sun day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋