If you weren't a patient person by your early 20s, how did you learn to be patient?

Question

(I'm not looking for advice for me but just generally interested in this question. I learned patience from my Ex.)

Again! The Thumbs Down Fairy is here to make everyone unhappy. Sorry about that. I did not give anyone a Thumbs Down.

Answer 1

I learned patience when I had a bouncing baby boy at age 25. I was in a terribly bad marriage, my son had colic for the first 6 weeks of his life, he screamed non-stop, and he was ugly. My ex just stayed away from us both. I was facing an ugly, screaming infant, had felt like I had sat on a hand grenade, and suffered from extreme sleep deprivation. Somehow, someway, I made it through those endless weeks of torment without once losing it. My kid quit screaming, he got really freaking cute within a few weeks, and I absolutely fell head over heals in love. I crossed some barrier, and I learned that I could absolutely control my thoughts, actions, and emotions. It was such a blessing. Having patience just saves loads of energy...

I guess the short answer would be trial by fire, but I'm a Southern, and I digress.....

Answer 2

I was not a patient person in my early 20's, but right after that I started becoming more mature and more patient. Discipline and learning from my mistakes were the reason. I was never impatient with people but with things I rushed alot. As an artist, I had lots of enthusiasm, but sometimes rushed too fast and didn't accomplish what I started out too, when I was younger.

Slowly realizing I could achieve my goals better and improve my craftsmanship and goals better, by controlling my concentration and taking the time to do things right way, I forced myself to be more patient. The rewards, when I finally took my time, were worth the effort of making myself be patient. Lots of deep breaths and a few early successes helped. Hope this was the kind of information you were looking for:)

Answer 3

The best way to learn to be patient is just to have experience with it. Thats my guess at least. Just like any other bad habit, you first need to break the bad to get the new. I'm pretty sure that is what worked for me, start to not notice it as much as you actually learn it. It's tough, and not fun at all, but the more you discipline yourself the better you'll get at it, perhaps?

Answer 4

I had a son, I still have him, who was different. I had to talk to him differently, discipline him differently, wait for him to put his sentences together because his mind was elsewhere. We pared down our expectations of the kid, and we got to where we could tell if he was trying or not. We rewarded incessantly. He's 17 now, and I've come to believe that there is almost no way to discipline this child anymore. Unless I beat his butt with a 2x4---we've taken his phone, his computer, his keyboard, his saxophone, his TV privileges, grounded him to the house...none of these seem to mean anything to him. He can live without them. I've learned to live knowing the child could be an Einstein or a Strauss, but not right now. I have to wait and see.

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Answer 5

Never been patient...but lately I pray for patience because I have kids...and in order to stay sane with them I need patience so I prayed and I believe on the saying that goes "Ask and you shall receive" and here I am....still alive....and much more patience..hang in there you will do just fine.

Answer 6

As they say, good levels of understanding come from good levels of understanding. I don't reccomend praying for patience. It ususally comes after many tries. I prayed for patience, once, and learned to 'get it'.


I learned it is an acquired thing. The more you exerciise a bicep the stronger it gets. If you are working on "patience" you are going to be tested.



Bless you.

Answer 7

I am pretty much still impatient- and 31 yrs old. I think whatever I learned about being more patient is from older people. Also I heard that once you become a parent you generally learn it from your kids- and you need lots of it, LOL

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I was the opposite - alot more patient in my 20's than now, in my 40's!

Houston traffic tries my patience every day - this city's traffic is AWFUL!

Answer 10

I actually learned to be patient when i was about 16. I just..was never in a hurry.