is there any reason?

Question

is there any reason I enjoy being around people with problems and the second I get happy it just kind of goes away. I hang out with cutters,anerexic people,people with screwed up familys,and then I hang out with the one perfect girl who makes me jealous and makes me want to cry(i never cry though)HELP ME!?!
I also want to be a therapist..i think it may have something to do with me thriving on being around problemed people. I still like helping ppl but i think my little problem has something to do with it.

Answer 1

First work on the crying part. Once you get that down the rest may take care of it's self.

Love and blessings Don

Answer 2

There's a very good reason you feel this way.

Humans are problem solvers. We thrive on things to fix. If you deprive a person of problems they start inventing them.

You are just a bit type A. Your perfect girl makes you feel useless, since she has no problems to solve. Take a deep breath. Be grateful you have someone with whom you can rest, relax and recharge.

Therapist sounds like a good career choice for you.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Perhaps being around these types of people gives you a sense of normalcy in that you can identify with them on some level. This is not uncommon and it can be a good indicator that you may need to address some issues of your own. If you feel that you are incapable of maintaining a mood of enjoyment, then you should talk to someone that has the skills to help you deal with these feelings. Perhaps once you understand and deal with your own issues, you will be able to pursue the Therapy thing and be truly able to help these people you are around.

Answer 4

Its alright as long as you are not into destructive behavior yourself. If you are not a very strong individual, with little self doubt, then you could be a great therapist. Do some reading on the subject to find if you have a strong intrest in this line of carrier choice.

Answer 5

kinda sounds like you have an ego problem, when surrounded by problemed people you thrive because you win among them. when surrounded by great people, you lose. just because you have a social issue doesnt necessarily mean that youll become a good psychiatrist, youve got to be able to deal with every one. i recommend working on the ability to deal with people, jealousy is an unnecessary feeling, working on that is very important. the tears thing ive never mastered but if you want to be stoic, be stoic

Answer 6

Books by psychiatrists: "Dreams" and "Number and Time: Reflections Leading toward a Unification of Depth Psychology and Physics," Marie-Louise von Franz, M.D.;
"Entering the Circle" and "The Master of Lucid Dreams," Olga Kharitidi, M.D.; and "Life before Life;" Jim Tucker, M.D.

Books by psychologists: "Extraordinary Knowing," Elizabeth Mayer, Ph.D.; "Babies Remember Birth," David Chamberlain, Ph.D.; "Mindset," Carol Dweck, Ph.D.

Book by medical doctors: "When Invisible Children Sing," Dr. Huang.

Book by physical scientists: "Psychoenergetic Science." Http://www.tiller.org

Carol Dweck's book, "Mindset," explains her theraputic re successful people's becoming trapped and frozen into "perfection" per not wishing to be thought "bad," "unwell," "failing," etc.

Natural born healers such as yourself enjoy the freeing up of conflicted energy. Often, the process may be more "real" than some somewhat more superficial, routine, or stereotypic lifestyling moments.

To connect with people at the soulfield level is partly kundalini. This is somewhat tied to sexual person (pure son) individuation, etc. The "father" aspect of "helper" permitting self's pro-creative/self-actualization in healing dynamic, as "expert" or "advice giver...."

It is the weakness of rigidity which Dweck speaks to, the origin of the "Peter principle" of "frozen assets," hence less fresh further learning curve; this does not seem to be your problem now.

The "perfect mate" is as the perfect tension-reduction, supporter, fulfiller, and facilitator of one's inner child via procreative dynamic. A biochemistry typically exists as both find mutual support/need-fulfilling, during the first 2-3 years. Then, that "wears off" insofar as the hearts' loves are no longer entwining and e.g. offering 10/20 loving words for each constructive criticism (negative words, unconstructive criticism, is not even worth commenting to, except that such are very deleterious). If both the man and woman find constructive caring, love, and respect (typically the male prefers respect to love in about a 60-40 ratio, the female the reverse), then the couple is more likely to move into the long-term optimal marriage of joy and caring, which about one in 10-15 or fewer couples experience--a kind of maslowian intersubjective self-and-other-actualization.

Would note that psyche-ology is properly the facilitation of the soul. To deny God and Soul is to condemn psychological theraputic to material reductivism, synthetic self-ish relativism, and the various types of mortal mind games and scientism rather prevalent among academics.

Erring on the other side, fantasy and false guru stylings are the problem for some.

So, if you're yet in high school (cutters are more prevalent there than in college dorms, apparently), would suggest "University of Destruction," David Wheaton, and "Expecting Adam," Martha Beck. Both are of some considerable value, one for the unconnected-to-God undergraduate (Stanford) and the other for the godless Ph.D. student (Harvard).

You might find "The Path of Virtue," Jonathan Murro, "Climb the Highest Mountain," Mark Prophet, and "Sexual Force or the Winged Dragon," O. M. Aivanhov, useful, particularly if you're not a genuine (personal awareness of his Presence) Christian or other such religious. "The Beautiful Story of a Master," Louise-Marie Frenette, is also worthwhile, as are C. S. Lewis' "The Great Divorce" and Free and Wilcock's "The Reincarnation of Edgar Cayce?"

cordially,

j.

p.s. Http://www.coasttocoastam.com radio has occasional guests who are on the fringes of mainstream psychology. If you are able to place a toll-free call during normal business hours, 1-800-232-6459 http://www.family.org has professional counselors who will hear your story one time, then refer you to trusted people and resources, based on your ability to pay and theraputic need, near you. Worth it :)

Answer 7

You have a need to counsel others. They have a requirement for someone that they can "trust" and that person is YOU. It is as simple as that. This may be your "natural calling." I wish you well. Peace, Love and God Bless.

Answer 8

You are sadly normal