Hello, uim i'm in grade 9 adn i have a brother in gr11 and he's gay alot of my friends found out and laugh at him and stuff and won't let me hang out with them!!
However all my brothers friends (gay or not) have no problems at all with him being gay they treat him just like any normal person would!!
Please only mature answers
so what should i do??? about my friends???
my brother hears them all the time and doesn't care and all his friends are so supportive!!!
So what do i do about my friends???
2007-11-01 14:45:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Surround yourself with people that are supportive. If they aren't letting you hang out with them then they aren't your friends. A true friend would be supportive. Ninth grade is hard. Hopefully you will meet some people that are more mature than the ones you are describing. Hang in there!
2007-11-01 14:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by Scooter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the question is who matters more to you? Your friends or your brother. It seems to me these are the type of friends who are picking on you because they sense a weakness. I would frankly tell them off and stick with your brother and find some friends who aren't so shallow as to dismiss you for the actions of another. The kind of people who judge you for things like that are likely to make your life hell anyway.
2007-11-01 21:55:25 · answer #2 · answered by sunshinebear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your "friends" sound like mean, judgemental, homophobic people. You deserve better friends. try meeting, and hanging out with new people. tell ur "friends" that u accept ur brother and if they dont, then they arent the type of people you want to be friends with. You may not have friends for a bit, but would you rather give up your dignity?
2007-11-01 22:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you think your friends are laughing because your brother is gay, and making his and your life miserable (even though he doesn't seem phased) then those girls aren't really your friends. if they were they would respect your brother and you, and not laugh at him. what is so funny about being gay that they need to laugh at him? nothing.
i can only say that i hope for your sake, that you make friends with people who respect both of you, and do not thing this is a laughing matter.
2007-11-01 21:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by vivienne r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight: somebody else (your brother, not you) did something they don't like, and they're made at you for what you didn't do?
Says it out loud: "He did something, and they're mad at me for it." Say it a few times. Did it sound really stupid? It should.
Trade them in for friends who make sense. Gay-tolerant would be preferable, but get friends who pay attention to who it is doing what.
2007-11-01 23:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by Tom V 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people will so "oh those friends arent really good friends" and crap (which is true but this is real life!!!), but what you should ask your friends why they think it's a bad thing to be gay, and find a way to explain how its not that bad... besides your in 9th grade!!! you should have tons of gay ppl runnin around ur school!!!
2007-11-01 21:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by kk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're friends aren't really your friends if they're willing to stop hanging out with you just because your brother is gay. That shouldn't matter to them. It's his bussiness anyways, not theirs or anybody elses.
2007-11-01 21:51:10 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Strength and Perseverance♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your true friends should except every part of you no matter what, if you tell them and they are not supportive you need to find better friends, your brother was meant to be gay that's how God planned it, you shouldn't be ashamed
2007-11-01 21:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should tell your friends that it doesn't really matter what gender your brother likes. were all people. your friends shouldn't be laughing at him or making fun of him because that is just rude. and if they do that than i guess they aren't true friends.
2007-11-01 21:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by :))))))) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not have TRUE friends, once you find TRUE friends you will see that they won't have any feelings of hatred for your brother. It is his life, he does not have to change for anyone and neither do you.
2007-11-01 22:37:36 · answer #10 · answered by karenpghblue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋