he decided to leave our marriage after 8 years and after having a baby.. then tried to convience me i should of seen this coming and also try to tell me our son was never planned and that we really never discussed having kids he was horrible i had a miscarriage a little over a year before we had our son. im still in shock that he left our marriage
2007-11-01 14:36:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow - it does sound like he really wasn't showing his true self when he was with you. I would be pretty angry that he's said such things and is being such a jerk...just be careful about what you do with that anger. Don't say or do anything to reduce yourself to his awful level.
I guess it's better that this has happened now instead of 10 or 15 or 20 years down the road. Thank god you don't have to live with such a two-faced, lying jerk anymore! Good riddens!!!!
p.s. not all men are like that. This could end up being the best thing that ever happened to you.
2007-11-01 14:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by chandiepoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your heart broken and i am to for the sake of the child but you have to remember on thing before you married this man you should have found out if he wanted to have children than you would have known not to marry this man. Now he tells you that your son was never planned well tell him this it takes two to make a baby so perhaps he should have used protection if he didnt want a child. He left you after your son was over year old than hate to bust your bubble this man was not for you. Take care of your child and give him all the love and support he need.
best of luck
2007-11-01 14:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when a man decides to leave u he will repaint the entire marriage as bad, tell u that u should have seen it coming, almost blaming u. we are always last to know, because sometimes all the signs are there and sometimes not. but the usual reason why someone leaves is that they hooked up with someone else and probably have been thinking about it for a long time. but men hide this kind of thing very well. they do turn mean and heartless and its almost as if we are dealing with someone we never knew.
2007-11-02 00:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is always something else behind it.
he is telling you that you should have seen it coming as a way of making himself feel better about doing what he did.
dont let him get the better of you.
a good friend of mine was married for 11months before her hubby turned around and decided that marriage wasnt for him.
he was the one who was chasing her to begin with. she didnt want a relationship at all yet she eventually gave in and after 3 yrs, they got married.
he was into marijuana (we didnt know) and also started hanging out with some younger guys who were also into drugs and theft etc.
he decided that he didnt want to have to answer to anyone so he told her that he wants a divorce because he doesnt love her anymore.
i could just imagine how hurtful that would have been to have the man you love say that to your face.
well they are divorced now and she is so much better off without him.
he started getting into harder drugs and now the cops are keeping an eye on him and his new mates.
i know its hard but just keep it together and know that one day, you will feel better and you'll see the light shining again.
it wont happen overnight, give it time, but it will happen.
he is obviously too gutless to tell you the real reason and you are so much better off with out him.
2007-11-01 15:14:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a self centered jerk. I'm going through a similar situation, and I feel your pain! But I'm happy that I don't "have" to put up with the emotional and physical abuse that would've only got worse. There are good men out there, be careful about going on the rebound with the wrong kind of men. (Some guys prey on women in our situation!) Now get angry and get revenge on this piece of crap looser!!!
2007-11-01 14:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by Azalea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't show what he was really made of before. You stay strong. I agree with the rest. HE is a jerk and heartless. You are better off without him. Trust me.
2007-11-01 15:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by Dani Bosco 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's selfish.
I'm so sorry hon. The only thing I can say is time will heal.
Try to re-establish life with your son as well as you can.
2007-11-01 14:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by ocean_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not heartless... he is selfish. Count your blessings. Now you only have one child at home.
Good luck. I will pray for you.
2007-11-01 14:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
people grow apart sometimes
2007-11-01 14:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's a coward and an asshole.
2007-11-01 14:46:10 · answer #10 · answered by santo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋