what is working wife's responsibility to her family and her husband?

Question

As a working wife, normally what should she do to contribute to her family and her husband?

Is it all the working wife must do all the routine works such as clean the house, provide meal, take care of the children n etc

Any experience working wife out there can give advice how to be a successful wife to her husband?

what is the ideal wife to the husband also?

How to catch the husband's heart and to have a successful marriage....

Answer 1

I dont think a working women should have to work, do all the housework, AND all the child rearing. If he wants it that way tell him to get 2 jobs so you can stay at home. A successful marriage is only successful if both the man and women share in the running of the household.It shouldn't all be up to one spouse to do everything.

Answer 2

My husband and I both work. We both do the household chores. I do more because he works more hours. I fix dinner during the week because I am at home then (I work 6:30 pm until 6:30am) I work every other weekend so he fixes dinner on those days and we eat when I get up. Whatever needs done just gets done by whoever is at home. Our kids are now teenagers so they help out. When they were little taking care of them went the same way. The wife should not have all of the responsibility for the family if she also works. As to a successful marriage, marry someone that you are compatible with. Someone that you love and can't live without and he feels the same. Someone that you can tell anything to and depend on. Someone that you can lean on and someone that is trustworthy. Good luck.

Answer 3

What the responsibility should be and what it is are 2 completely different things. Most of us who work full-time, handle about 80 to 90% of the housework and about 75% caring for the children. Most husbands that I know, "help" with the kids, cut grass, take out the garbage and do some minor repairs around the house as needed.
It's hard to tell you what makes the "ideal wife". It really depends upon the age of the spouses along with their individual personalities. What works in my household may not work in others. Me - assertive & sometimes domineering. Husband - quiet and gentle, fairly passive much of the time. We collaborate on all major decisions - we make some together and I "take over" on the ones he says he isn't concerned about. I respect his strengths and he respects mine. I am somewhat high stress/high strung and he is very easy going - sometimes we drive each other crazy, but mostly even each other out. I think the ideal wife is one who believes in mutual respect and a partnership.

Answer 4

Since we live in time in age where there takes two run a house hold this is what i think okay so don't get hot headed. Ive worked and still maintain my house as well , I cleaned my home prepared meal took care of the children and took care of my husbands needs as well. Its a routine you have to work out that's all.

best of luck

Answer 5

A working wife/mother should not be expected to do everything, but unfortunatly that's they way it seems sometimes. If you work 40 + a week and so does your husband, then you should share home chores. But keep in mind that mowing the lawn, feeding the dog, and other outside chores are included in that. Sit down with him and make a list of home chores. Then divide them up, and have your kids help too. You will ALL be much happier that way. Let him "pick" which chores he'd rather help with. ( Men like to vacuum for some reason.. I think because there's a motor involved.) Good Luck.

Answer 6

It is a difficult and fragile balance that we modern women face. The traditional roles as housewife and mother, when the husband is the breadwinner, are in upheaval when the wife is also working.

We all know what is expected if the wife is not working. Then her job is taking care of cleaning the house, cooking, and childcare. The husband comes home from work and his work is done.

It is difficult, because depending on what family situation a man is raised in, he may still expect his wife to take care of the traditionally "wifely" duties, even if she is working as much as he is.

In order for the the wife to not feel burdened by an unfair workload trying to combine work and children and cooking, it is essential for her to set boundaries of what is expected. Men generally respect women who put their proverbial feet down.

You have to communicate to him how much you need his help with everything. Men need to feel needed.

A "successful wife" takes care of herself in addition to her husband and her children. Your husband should respect that a working wife and mother needs his help with the household chores. Otherwise, resentment starts to build and after too long there is no going back....

From personal experience, I can tell you that although my husband's mother was a stay-at-home mom, he has adjusted to the reality of our situation (because I work). He understands that the money I bring into the household is necessary to maintain our quality of life, so he has to help me or I get frazzled and crazy. And what husband wants a frazzled, unfulfilled wife? (And what woman really wants to be frazzled and unfulfilled?).

Answer 7

If they both work they should split the house chores in half. He will show his respect and appreciation by helping around the house.

If the wife just works and the husband doesn't then the husband should be doing nearly all of the housework(his butt should be out getting a job and he has to do something to show his respect for her providing for his sorry ***).

Answer 8

You have enough "50-50" advice, so I will go for the other part of this question. Both of you must pitch in practically, but both of you must realize the need to set time aside for each other. Many nights, either or both of you come home tired. So romance needs to be planned. That does not help the spontaneity angle, but we must deal with that, for the romance itself is worth planning. Show him that he is a priority. How to do so might be fun to describe, but might get racy too. I better leave that part to you. I know what I wish would happen at my house, with a wife who is a retail store manager and works long hours......and I know what does not happen.... sigh

Answer 9

If the children are at an age where they can help out, then they need to start doing that too, asap. It's all a family affair when both parents work. This helps the household immensely and teaches the children how to keep a house and take care of themselves. That way, they don't grow up to be slobs themselves.

If he doesn't help out, then leave his stuff for himself. Let him cook his own meals, wash his own clothes, etc. if he doesn't help out.

Answer 10

She's working and you're working then everything should be split 50/50. She shouldn't be expected to come home and still have to cook, clean, and take care of the kids. Take on some responsibility yourself. It's not just up to the woman to make the marriage successful. Damn get out of the 50's.