What do you think of me refusing to be friends with people that are against gay marriage?

Question

I know this older woman who refuses to be friends with gays and let them in her home. I have no respect for her and won't speak to her. I give her the silent treatment.

Answer 1

I think it is a person's right to choose his/her own friends. It is that woman's right to choose no friendships with gay people. And your right to refuse friendship with her.

The world is so much bigger than the gay issue....what a shame for both of you to be so narrow minded.

Answer 2

You have the right to be friends or NOT to be friends with anyone you choose... HOWEVER, people with differing views CAN and often DO learn a LOT from each other... it's too bad that older woman you know is not more tolerant ... there is NOTHING wrong with being gay..but a LOT of people are against gay marriage....so if you refuse to be friends with anyone who doesn't agree with YOU, you may end up with a LOT fewer friends. I do NOT pick my friends based on what or WHO they believe in---I pick MY friends solely on how they treat ME... It doesn't matter to me their political asperations or religious beliefs ....I just know what NOT to talk to them about....Same with any friends who don't like gay people. I just do NOT talk to them about gays and when they TRY to talk to me about that issue, I am very vague with them so as not to start arguments.

Answer 3

Then you must have a hell of a lot of people you have no respect for and don't speak to. Marriage by definition is between 2 people of opposite gender, gay marriage is an oxymoron.

Feel free not to speak to me either.

Answer 4

By ignoring people who reject gay rights, is essentially the same thing. People who are opposed to gays and gay marriage is against gays having their freedom of opinion and of their life. By giving her the silent treatment for voicing her opinion your doing the same thing. Everyone is entitled to an opinion we may not all agree with it.

Answer 5

Doesn't matter what I think of you. What do you think of yourself?

Out of curiosity, does she know why you don't speak to her? Would she benefit by some open and honest dialogue - or is she simply a dogmatic, homophobic bigot? Not much one can do with them, except to avoid them.

Speaking for myself, once I have tried to engage someone in dialogue, and that person prefers to maintain a closed mind, I don't give them another thought. They have a right to their opinions - and I have a right not to have their bigotry cluttering up my life.

Addendum: My friends; loved ones and I disagree on many issues and remain close. Our conversations are rich and interesting. The difference is all parties' willingness to engage in open-minded communication.

Answer 6

I think you're trying to take a stand but it's still not right. Not everyone is going to feel the same way about something that you do. It's called a difference of opinion.

I think gays should be allowed to marry. I have many friends who don't. We just agree to disagree and leave it at that. We don't debate out it or even talk about it.

They have their views and I have mine. I suggest you try to be a little more open-minded. I understand where you are coming from but it's a two-way street.

EMT

Answer 7

What you do is your own business. You can certainly voice your opposition to their beliefs in a calm, mannered tone of voice but I'm not sure whether it is worth losing a friend over a difference of opinion such as that. Two of my neighbors are gay and I consider them my friends. They live with one another but neither believes in gay marriage. I do believe in the rights of gays to marry and even to adopt children, but I don't intend to call a end to my friendship over that issue.

Answer 8

in my opinion people are people it shouldn't matter about there sexually preference. You can be there friend just the same. In fact usually there more in tune with the feelings and a great friends and amazing people. Just because there sexually preference is the same gender doesn't make them any less better or worst than anyone else.=]
we all have are flaws or little corks but that's what makes us special, not that being homosexually is a flaw its there choice. let them make it.

Answer 9

That is her right and belief. You're going to hold that against her because of her beliefs? That's not fair to her. It's as if you want her to have the same feelings and beliefs as you, like she's not entitled to have her own. If she doesn't accept homos, that is her human right to be against them. If you want to be a true friend to her, you will respect her beliefs and know that she has every right to be against homos and homosexual marriage. I'm against homosexuals and homo marriages as well because it is immoral. If someone, even a friend, does not feel the same as me, that's fine with me, but I'm not going to ditch a friend just because they don't feel the same as I do, regardless of the issue. Gays should not be allowed to marry - that is NOT the true institution and sanctity of marriage. The bible states that marriage, as God instituted, is between one man and one woman. For gays to have the right to marry is defilement and defamation of what the meaning of marriage is. Not everyone is going to feel the same as me, but that's them - I don't care what other people believe. It doesn't mean I'm going to end a friendship with someone because they don't feel the same as I do.

Answer 10

I think that's ignorant on her part and on your part as well.....just because someone has differing views than you on any subject, even one as controversial as gay marriage, you need to work with them and look past the fact that they have an ignorant state of mind and still see that they might need a friend and be that friend......I bet u one of her close friends has some homosexcual tendencies and I bet you if she found out, she would go crazy knowing she was friends with a homosexual......IGNORANCE IS MANKIND'S DOWNFALL