I was married to my ex-husband for 5 years (NO KIDS). We were both young, loved eachother very much, but didn't know how to have a healthy relationship. We ended badly and abruptly. The divorce was final a year ago. We both have since re-married. Just so happens that his new wife knows my new in-laws. She goes around bad mouthing me to them. They have since stopped talking to her. BUT, she keeps checking up on my life through people, and trying to find out more information about me. So my questions is..Why does she keep dwelling on the past? Yes, I treated my ex badly at one time. He did the same. We were passionately in love but young and had a unhealthy relationship. Why does she feel the need to try and make my life miserable, when there should be NO reason to even think about me? I tried talking to my ex. After he put his two cents in on me marrying an older man, and that he would always have love for me, etc he said the drama would stop. It hasnt!! What's a girl to do?!
2007-11-01 14:16:38 · 5 answers · asked by Lizzie Lizard11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is threatened by you. There is nothing you can do about it. My advise is to "kill" her with niceness every time you see her.
Trust me, women like this will be driven crazy if you are nice to her. Be mean to her and you only give her power.
Good luck.
2007-11-01 14:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She obviously has really LOW self esteem if she is till worried about you...your ex probably does still have feeling about you and she probably knows it...therefore making her self conciousness rise and her green monster come out.
Ignore it. That's all you can do. She wont stop...and if you retaliate in any way you'll just end up looking as bad, and crazy, as her. Kill her with kindness! If you are mean it just gives her something to feed off of.
Good luck though! I hope she can grow up and get over it soon!
2007-11-01 14:23:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get fair and square with her.
Ask her why she does it and tell her you do not appreciate her intruding in your private life.
She's probably wanting to check there's nothing going on between you and her husband and she's probably jealous of you, or despises you for some reason
Maybe you can get her to tell you what her problem is.
2007-11-01 14:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by ocean_girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well maybe she feels jealous of you since you were the first one to marry him and that s he feels like she is getting the leftovers
2007-11-01 14:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jasmine D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her, and show them what you are really like as time passes.
2007-11-01 14:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by x2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋