MY wife recently came to me after 13 years of marriage and told me she was attracted to women.She swears that it would not affect are marriage if i allowed her to explore the feelings she says shes had most of her life.I love my wife with all my heart so i told her that if it was important to her then i would not interfear.As of yet she has not found a partner but i would be lying if i said it didn't worry me is this normal? Am i over reacting?I've been supportive but should i tell her that i don't want to share.
2007-11-01 14:02:15 · 11 answers · asked by redvedica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is a chance that she is bi-sexual. If that's the case, then maybe she just wants to experiment sexually but not have a relationship outside of the marriage. I don't think it means she's not in love with you or not attracted to you as well.
On the other hand, if this really bothers you, then it is NOT okay with you. Don't tell her it's okay just because you're afraid of losing her. Tell her that it's her choice but it would hurt you and then if she still actually goes through with it, you'll have to re-evaluate your marriage.
2007-11-01 14:31:13 · answer #1 · answered by chandiepoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least she is sharing her feelings with you. I know that I too have been bi-curious for some time now. However, my husband also knows that I can appreciate a beautiful woman when I see one, he knows I am curious and we have discussed our options. My thing is, I am very happy with what I have and sometimes it is best to keep things like that fantasy. So, really it all depends on how open you want your relationship to be. Keep an open mind and heart. This may be a test of your marriage. It is times like this where she may be just as scared and worried as you are.
2007-11-01 14:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by truely_loved 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's looking to cheat, whether it's with a man or a woman, she's cheating. There is absolutely no excuse not to remain monogamous even if she is bisexual. If your wife is allowed to have a girlfriend, then you now have an open marriage and it's only fair if you get yourself a girlfriend or a boyfriend too! Of course, I bet she's a lesbian and is going to leave you anyways.
2007-11-01 14:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by some female 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That same thing happened to me. Fortunately I learned from my mistakes.
What I should have done was start the divorce process right away. Instead I though it was a phase and it would pass. I could not have been more wrong.
My sincere advise is get out now. She is going to cheat. She wants the one thing you could NEVER give her.
But don't worry. There is life after divorce and it sure is fun!
Good luck.
2007-11-01 14:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to share then you should tell her. You won't be able to take it back later (after she has found someone that she cares about) so if there is a problem for you, you better speak up now.
2007-11-01 14:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your wife, so if she wants to have sex with anyone else, whether male or female, it's breaking the marriage vows. If she truly wants that, and you truly want her to be happy, much better to separate. I would not share my spouse with anyone else, no matter who, not in an intimate way.
2007-11-01 14:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by Linni 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start hiding your money, plan your exit strategy while she looks for a gf. I would tell her though that it would be nice if you could watch just once. That will make it easier for you to leave. Take your time don't do anything rash and I'll say it again; hide your assets!
2007-11-01 14:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the way i see it ..is would she be willing to share u...i think a marriage is between 2 people...and she should have thought about her "feelings" before marrying you...i think you should be honest with her about the way that u feel...
2007-11-01 14:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by loveleygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really don't want to share your wife, yes!!! You should just tell her that.
2007-11-01 14:07:15 · answer #9 · answered by sexychocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same sex or not shes breaking your wedding vows , if you dont want to share her you should tell her that , how would she feel about sharing you ? btw ..id already be worried
2007-11-01 14:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by autumn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋