I met a guy that is a booze addi ct. He is rude to everyone. I tried to meet him on his level and just pulled myself down. His wife is in denial. Says that he had a poor childhood and people are picking on him. Everyone that knows him says he is a jerk. My wife and I want to support his wife but she is in denial and he has a control over her. Help appreciated but no rude jokes please. This is a serious problem that involves two peoples lives.
2007-11-01 13:58:01 · 6 answers · asked by Bob S 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like they are both in denial. You and your wife can't help this couple. As long as the friends wife makes excuses for her husband, she will not face the facts of his drinking, maybe if he stopped drinking she would have to stop also and she might not want to. I hope there are not any children. A bad childhood is not a good reason to have a bad life. When we grow up we choose how are lives are going to be. We decide what will be in our lives. He chose alcohol and he likes it. Only he can change that. His wife supports that choice. Only she can change that. She is an enabler. Your friends are on a one way street to nowhere. For the sake of your marriage stay away from this couple. They will only bring you problems. Marriage is hard enough without outside influences, coming between you and your wife. Stay strong in your life and marriage. You sound as though you have a big heart and these other people will only crush it. Make friends that live and think as you and your wife. You will be happier for it.
2007-11-01 19:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by Linda S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only so much you can do for her. If she is in denial, not much is really going to help. You can try to make her see the light all you want to, but don't count on much. It's going to take something big for her to see (and accept) the truth.
What you and your wife need to do is be there for her when she does.
2007-11-01 21:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by Julie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is in denial there really isn't anything that you can do for her. She has to realize that there is a problem. She is making excuses for him. A lot of us had a terrible childhood but we are adults and are responsible for our own actions.
2007-11-01 21:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them that they have to work it out together the more people stick there nose in it the complicate it gets
2007-11-01 21:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by hillman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to get her to an Al-Anon meeting.
2007-11-01 21:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will have to decide she wants to leave on here on if she wants to talk just listen to here and she will figure it out
2007-11-01 21:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by just me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋