im 13 and i feel alone and depressed?

Question

Well, since when i was 6 years old my parents got divorced so by the age of 7 i had to grow up really fast i had to be resposible and take care of my brother while my mom worked.I think that i started to feel depressed when i was 9 but i wasn't depressed almost all the time.But at the age oof 11 i felt alot of times depressed.well my closest friend said"i don't like u"i feel so sad i thought maybe my friends hate me too,i was so sad i was was about 2 cry in one of my classes.Since when i was 7 i stopped crying, but inside i feel so empty, alone and i wanna cry and scream but i don't but i keep stuff bottled up inside, i feel that like there's no one that i could talk 2 i have no best friend,i wanted to kill myself at the age 10 but didn't bc it would cause problems to my mom and brother.i feel useless,pathetic,alone.I don't tell my mom about how i feel. I have been thinking a little about cutting myself but i haven't done it.what should i do?I feel so alone

should i also do a sport to distract myself// maybe tennis?

thank you for your support.I try my best i feel the urge to cut myself because i feel depressed(friends,family,school) sometimes but i haven't cut myself and not planing to promise!

Answer 1

Depression is a disease and you can get help for it. If you haven't already, please consider talking about this to your parents. If that's not feasible, you need to find a caring adult, whether it's a teacher or coach or a family member, to talk to. The feelings you describe are feelings that many of us have felt. But if they persist for weeks on end then it's something that you might need medical help for. Cutting yourself is not the answer. Reaching out to someone is the better way to go.

Think, your mom seems to rely on you, therefore you are NOT useless. Until you find someone to confide in, consider keeping a journal, any notebook will work fine. Sometimes just writing down your feelings makes them not feel as bad.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I know it is tough for you, but remember that you are loved by your mother. Cutting (my experience) does nothing to ease the pain, but only temporarily blinds you from the present. You are going through an emotional time right now and I hope you understand that you need to love and care for yourself because in truth, many people will care for you and most likely do. It is no lie.
I've been in a similar situation and I found that the divorce had nothing to do with you; no matter what you may think.
You will always be loved by yourself, because you need this inner strength. You are a beautiful person and each aspect is downright lovely. You need to love yourself, and you should, because I believe you are stronger than you realize.
Friends in your life will come and go and times will seem lonely. While it seems like the end of the world, you have to remain strong and be a good person.
Killing yourself won't help you, and please keep your past in your past since you should always remember the ray of sunshine in the future. Keep your hopes up, and stay strong. If you ever need to just talk to anyone try your school counsler, and keep a diary.
If you ever need to e-mail anyone I'm a person who can help, and you can definitely count on a few people here who know that you deserve to be happy and that you should be.
Don't be lonely, try to make some friends and don't give up.

Answer 3

Speaking from experience, if you can really find a sport and get into it, do it!!!! I think it's excellent you came up with that. I have a 14 year old nephew who felt the same way, and still does at times, but you just hang in there. And you need to talk about it with some one also. Go talk to a school counselor, if there is one you like. You need someone close to you that can encourage you and someone you can just vent too.

There is nothing wrong with seeking out a counselor to talk too. If kids ask, just say you want to be an _____ whatever and you and the counselor are making sure you are taking the right classes and looking at the right colleges. Nobody, and I mean nobody needs to know you talk to one to vent. And they can't tell anyone either. Not even your parents.

Hey, I'm a lot older then you and I feel the same way. But it never occurred to me to actually get off my butt and do something. So at 13 you are way more advanced then I am!!

Thanks for the insight.

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Answer 4

It's rough that you had to grow up so fast, but the thing is that life throws you lots of curve balls that you just have to deal with. I'm sorry that you had to find out that sad reality so soon. It's not fair...but it's the way life is. I think since you know that at such a young age, you will be better equipped to help people in the future who are having the same types of problems. That time will come, my friend...it will.

For anyone who is going through what you are, it's very natural to feel the way you do. When your friend said she didn't like you it was probably because you were so depressed all the time. At that young of an age, you think that life should be all about fun, right? So you can't blame her for feeling like you weren't "fun". I'm sorry that you have no best friend now.

I'm 36 and married...and I feel depressed and alone a lot. I don't think there's anything lonlier than having tons of people around you and feeling like no one understands what you're going through. If you ever feel like it, follow the link to my e-mail address. Yes, it might be odd in that I'm so much older than you...probably closer to your Mom's age! However, if you want an ear, I'm here.

Answer 5

I am sorry you had to live a life like that. It must be hard feeling that way. You need to think about how much you have helped your mom. These kind of situations are challenges to us but they make us who we are. You wouldnt be the person you are had you not gone through this situation. You are at a young age where everything that happens really touches you. I understand why you feel that way. It is bad to cut yourself. You cant do that. If you cant do it on your own and are having very sad thoughts, ask your mom (she will understand) if you can talk to a counselor. It will certainly help get all these feelings inside of you out. It is not healthy for you to feel that way. You are not useless and pathetic you are a strong person who helped her family through a lot. I think you need to talk to an adult and let them know how you are feeling. You were there for your mom and she will be there for you. There is no reason for you to keep this all inside. If you dont want to talk to your mom, talk to a teacher who will set you up with the school psychologist. Talking it out will help you feel better about yourself. Try to stay positive and remember what an asset you were and are to your mom and brother. Good luck!!

Answer 6

Oh my dear,

You really sound like you are having a difficult time. You really should talk to someone. Is there a counselor at school to whom you can talk or a school psychologist?

Maybe you could get some pen pals and chat on line, You really do have to be careful with that kind of thing though because you cannot give out personal information.

Is there a boys and girls club near where you live. Maybe you and your brother could go there, then you could meet kids your own age and maybe find some new friends.

How about going to Church, that works for some people.

I wish you the best and I hope you will take the time to try to help yourself. You've got to get out so that you can find somebody to talk to.

Answer 7

Hi, I can understand the divorce and taking care of my brother. I went through something very very similar. I too held everything in. But you can't. Eventually something will bust. You really need to talk to someone, even Mom. Yes, even Mom. You probably think that will make things worse, but it shouldn't. No matter what she is going through, she is doing it to try and make your life better than hers was. So it may seem like she may not have time, or you may feel like it will worry her, but believe me, NOT telling her is worse.

You aren't alone, there are lots of others feeling the same way. It always looks different on the outside. You yourself said you hold things in, so do others.

Don't make yourself bleed to know you can feel, you can feel.
Don't kill yourself, cause "WHAT IF" is always around the corner. What if this happens, and what if that happens.

Talk talk talk to Mom, a school counselor, aunt, cousin...
or come back here and talk some more
But try with Mom first. You have a lot of things on your tiny shoulders, if you weren't strong you would not have made it this far. So you are strong.

And remember, NOTHING is forever. And you can do ANYTHING if its temporary. hang in there and tell us what happens with mom..
ok???

Answer 8

Wow at 13!!! i would talk with your mom and tell her how you feel. You need to be open and express how you feel so you dont keep it bottled up. Keeping it bottled up will eat at your mind until you break and do something that might hurt someone or yourself. Suicide is not the answer nor is cutting yourself. Those are for cowards! You know you have problems and you seem to know why you feel it. So to me you need to believe in yourself and not depend on others to make you feel good. And for real talk with your mom because she will always be there for you and she loves and cares for you. You are not useless and everyone is here for a reason. I am no shrink but you need to talk with somebody, even if it is a counselor at school. Get it out and get help. you can get through this and get on with your life without harming yourself.

Answer 9

Hormones are raging through your body at the moment (since you're at the peak or puberty, or going through it), which is causing you to have this sadness. Of course you're have the right to be sad, but I believe your hormones are making you sadder than you should be.

Keep in mind, there is a difference between sadness and depression. Depression goes very deep, and is mental.

Why would you ever want to cut yourself? What is THAT going to do to help your situation? Absolutely nothing! It will only leave you in pain, and with ugly scars that will remind you of what you did. It won't make you any happier.

Talk to your mother about how you are feeling. She will help you figure out what to do to help yourself. You may need professional help, or just someone to talk to and rant to once in awhile. You'd be surprised how much that can help. Bottling your problems up does nothing for you.

Answer 10

I do understand where you are coming from. You know you have a problem now we have to get help talk to your mom. I know she very busy but she loves you and wants you happy.
If you have difficulty with that try your school counselor they can help you talk o mom or dad just cause he not there doesn't mean he don't care. you have to be honest with them.
when they say "whats the matter" you have to let them know what is going on. make someone listen to you.
maybe the mom of a good friend or you pastor This is serious don't let people tell you that you'll feel better later
its later. do it now before stupid happens. you can't take back stupid. You are a good person with a lot of responsibility
your school work, your brother and you are taking care mom.
you have alot to offer this world. demand that people listen so you can be happy again. just remember YOU ARE LOVED