need advice regarding about a child always being labeled a bad kid by school staff.?

Question

my son , i know is not the perfect student, and yes, he can be out of line but does this mean he should always be accused of things he has not done?
You know that saying? once you've been bad your always bad.
My son is a very kind hearted child and can be very lovable but when he gets provoked he can get mad. please if there is anyone who can relate please help!!!!!

Answer 1

I have seen this sort of thing happen to kids. Yes, school staff tends to expect bad behavior from past offenders. However, as a school staffer, I have also seen parents who are oblivious to the problems or in total denial. I am not saying this is the case here but it also happens. So it does work both ways. Talk to the principal, the teacher, the school counselor. Keep the pathways of communication open and working. I have had to write up kids who retaliated when provoked. I write up the provoker too. But I tell the one who retaliated that he/she has to come to a duty instead of retaliating. Both are in the wrong here otherwise. If someone pushes him and he hits back, he will get in trouble. That is how the school discipline works. Anger causes lots of problems. If that is a issue, look at getting help with it. But talk it out with the school. That is the best way.

Answer 2

you didn't say how old your kid is or even what it is that he is doing wrong.. Has he gotten referals? Have the teachers called him "bad" or are you just assuming that.
Either way, you should take your concerns to the teacher and the principal. Find out exactly what happens and also ask them to have a copy of the discipline plan to go over with him at home. What rules is he breaking and why.
Next ask for the school counselor to get involved. Have her/him speak with the kid...see if there is something he is upset about. Then they can meet with you and discuss the findings. Sometimes kids need to talk to someone outside of the family, sometimes they will share what or who is bothering them.

Answer 3

WHOA!!!! Who said something about slapping him on the head? Did you know that a blow to the head can cause epilepsy? Which is a seziure disorder. I have it, with a life history of grand mal seziures. I hear they're scary to have to watch.
NO, he shouldn't be accused of things he hasn't done.
In grades 1-8, I was accussed of things at school that I didn't do. But I was one of many that wasn't teachers,principal's "pet" or liked too well by the secatary. My folks didn't work at the school or on school board have real important jobs. It's not fair, but as an epileptic, you learn that life isn't fair.

Answer 4

Crack down. If he's done something bad, slap him on the head and take away his 10 essentials one by one;
ipod
computer
phone
cell phone
time after school (aka you're grounded)
game-boy or whatever he has
dessert and Halloween candy
car (if he's old enough)
TV
omygosh they took away my XBOX360! I'm gonna die without halo3!

Now don't condemn me here. that's if he did it and it was bad.

If he didn't do it, talk to his teachers + principal, spend more time w/him and try to improve his grades because if a teacher sees you trying to make an effort, usually they will cut you some slack and not automatically think of him whenever he does something wrong. If you get a teacher on your side, they will advocate for him and try to help.

But don't go to the guidance counselors. They're all manipulative head shrinks who's main purpose in life is to mess with your emotions. i hate them.

oh yes, and my brother says that you should take him camping/hiking over a weekend. it does a world of good to anyone to be in the outdoors. it'll also give you some talking time.

Answer 5

Although I dont agree with slapping him on the head (not a good idea) I do agree that if you do try to get his grades up and work with the teacher and the school that the school will see you are trying to work on the problem. Sometimes as a parent its hard to think of our child as a problem in school. Instead of hiding in the sand, lets fix it. Its easy to have denial.Its a coping mechanism.

Answer 6

This is where you need to actively participate in his education. Being a good advocate will go along way. Education goes both ways at most schools. Teachers included.