rape question?

Question

i reported rape last year and the police told me that they can't do anything....what do i do know?i want him 2 die even though hes my cousin i hate him he ruined my life.
THANKS
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dianna d......my parents bearly found out last year and this happened 6 years ago

Answer 1

The best revenge you can take on him is to be able to move on with your life and NOT let it destroy you. I was sexually assaulted by someone I thought I knew really well. It was rough, but I went to a therapist so I could talk it out and get myself back on the right path. I hate the fact that he is still out there (because the police here wouldn't do anything either!) but I won't let him hurt me again. I also tell anyone I know that knows him what he did so he can't hurt them either!

I hope you are able to get past the anger. If you keep that anger toward him, you are the one who suffers, not him. The anger will eat you up from the inside out... don't let it, and don't ever be alone anyplace with him ever again.

Answer 2

How long ago did this happen? Has the statute of limitations expire before you reported it to the police? If not Look in the phone book under Government. Find the # for the District Attorneys office in your County and call him/her .Tell them your story and how the police said that nothing could be done. The D-A decides if a crime was committed and wether or not prosecute. Good Luck!

Answer 3

What kind of police is that!!!!!!!!!!!
You need to get your cousin in court!
Then get a very good lawyer! The kinds that are so good they make the defendant tell that they are guilty.
You need to work hard. You need to be extra serious about this. People will ask why haven't you reported this years before. Be prepared to answer.
As you can see the justice system in America sucks and you need to fight for your rights.
Write letters, call, anything to get in touch with them until they can't take it anymore.
Theyre are also some places for rape victims you can can for help:
call the national sexual assault hotline at (800) 656-HOPE.

Answer 4

get a psychologist, i was raped by my brother when i was somewhere between the ages of 6-9 and i still live with him. lucky me huh? and just NOW im seeing a psychologist, well at least in 2 weeks. I want to cause my brother so much pain.... but i don't cause i know it'll screw my life up EVEN more, and i wont let him do that to me. Its great that you actually managed to tell the police, my sis got molested by her best friends dad and it took her 3 years to tell. Me, well i can't cause he's my brother, even though i hate my dad, it will kill my mom. and i actually like her. Your not the only one. Stay in there, don't let him take you down. You could do what i did, i built up walls that prevented me from being capable of loving anyone, and only now am i thinking of learning how to love again because i met a great guy. So see a psychologist, and i would definitely love to talk to you, my email is [e-mail] Good luck

Answer 5

How on earth did u get in that position.That police will not act on your complaint,you dont add many details,even though the intrusion is not a permisable act when you say No.Have his relatives been notified of his assault on you and that you are going to take further action, so that this will not happen again to anyone else.These are some of the actions that you can take upon yourself,please consult with some legal advice.Also in the future drop the name candylicious aka la loca ,those are points against your character. Live and learn.

Answer 6

In order not to suffer the other affects of rape on your life. It is important to read up on and get counseling for being raped and not getting justice.

I am a husband of a sexually molested child at age of 5 by a baby sitter, again at 10 by an older brother, and force raped at 16 by an older boy friend in high school. None were brought to justice. Her brother denies it and we believe he was molested by a boy scout leader and a older baby sitter at a young age.
There is great damage and relational viruses ( behavior) that you may take into your nest relationship. I suffered those behavior issues from my wife for 9 years. I was unaware of all the issues until much later in our marriage. I knew of the high school one and that was it.

The Lord saved my marriage and have now been married for 15.5 years.

Seek, talk it out and let go for you not the rapist.

Answer 7

For the police to help there has to be evidence of the crime. There are also time-limits (statute of limitations). When a crime happens, after a certain time the courts won't try a case. I don't agree with this. Like murder, I think sexual assaults should not have a statute of limitations. I also think sexual offenses deserve capitol punishment - for the murder of someone's innocence.

I'm very sorry for your pain. I too have survived incest. You need to find some help. I know other answerers have talked about rape-crisis lines and counseling. They can help you deal with the rage you feel and all the other feelings.

I know you feel he "has ruined" your life. It doesn't have to be that way. To say that you give him too much power over yourself. He has hurt you and damaged your life, true. But, it doesn't have to be "ruined". When you get some help you will be able to get beyond the horror of this and it will become part of your "history", not your story of your life.

My relationship with Jesus has helped me to heal from sexual abuse from several family members, my dentist, a teacher and a teen age boy. My "story" is enough to make someone sick just to hear about it. It was so painful I wanted to kill myself. I called a crisis-line and they got me in touch with a youth organization. I became a Christian in Oct. 1971 The love of Jesus is the first pure love I ever experienced. Its taken me a very long time and lots of work to get well; I'm still working on it even now.

You have one advantage I didnt have. You are still very young and nowdays people talk openly about these things and there are many ways to get help. When it happened to me, no one talked out loud about these problems and it made it terribly hard to get help and recover. If you seek help early, you will recover sooner. You already survived, now seek to get healed. Use your courage to help yourself heal. Don't look to short-term things like drugs/alcohol/food/gambling/ to numb out the pain. They only make it harder to heal. They can make more problems. I had to recover from pain-pill addiction that I developed when I tried to hide from my problems.

I wish you all the best, my friend. I don't think you are "loca" at all!!!!

Answer 8

forgiveness will set you free for it is hurting you more than the other person. Easier said then done yet possible. Second I would like to know why your family have not picked up the ball to find out why there has been no arrest in your case. Weather this person is your cousin or not he needs to be brought to justice and your family needs to push the issue. I am concerned that you have not gotten any counseling for this act again you.

Answer 9

Richard B is right. There should be legal consequences. It's also important for you to heal. There may be someone who can help you with both at your local crisis center. E-mail me if you would like me to help you find one in your area. I've included the link to a survivors chat. I haven't really tried it, but talking with anonimity is helpful for a lot of people. The sad truth is that you are not alone. I also want you to know that what you're feeling is natural.
I've also included the national hotline number and a link to RAINN. I hope that you will feel free to contact me if you think you may be comfortable talking to me. I am a survivor too, ten years in December.
http://www.survivorschat.com/index1.html
National Sexaul Assault Hotline
1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
http://www.rainn.org/

Answer 10

So sorry to hear that. Could be that DA is refusing to prosecute for a variety of reasons. If that is the case then there is not much you can do criminally. Have you thought about pursuing it in civil court. Generally in civil court you need less of a standard, "preponderance of evidence", as opposed to "beyond all reasonable doubt" in criminal court. Whatever you decide I hope that you get closure and justice.