is it a psychological problem to have a father jealous of his daughters?

Question

let's say a father is jealous of thingshis daughters recieve like laptops or ipods etc. or that he's jealous of the good lives they have. is that really a psychological disorder/problem? how would that be treated. gimmy details.

father just thinking the daughter doesnt deserve it even though the daughter is a straight A student and does so much for the world yet the father is jealous of the things she recieves and thinks she doesnt deserve them. nothing to do with a boyfriend

Answer 1

I don't know about the details , but him getting jealous of u . thats way too normal cause after all , he is a human being before being a father ... treat him like that .. !
Cheers

Answer 2

First off the father should be proud of his daughters, and of the things they receive. So right there it's a problem. I don't know if it is a psychological disorder. If he was jealous of his daughters boyfriends, than yeah that would be a serious problem. As far as how to deal with it. It would depend on the age of the daughters, if they are minors, than I would talk to the mom, or someone I trusted about what is going on. If the daughter are adults, than I would just tell my dad to get over it. Than ignore him till he did.

Answer 3

That could be one possible symptom of a personality disorder, but a clinician could not possibly diagnose based on that alone. So, with the details given, I wouldn't know what to say about a psychological disorder or treatment. However, it is certainly a character issue, and should be dealt with within the family and possibly within a family therapy treatment program. Rather than a diagnosed disorder, I would be tempted to simply call it immaturity and lack of love. After all, it's certainly not a very mature or loving way for a parent to act, is it?

Answer 4

I'm a Mom. I really want good things for my daughters and I love them so much. When I was young money was always really tight and my Dad was someone who went through the Depression in the 1930's when everyone was poor for a while. He never gave me things and my Mom would tell me to lie to him about the price of things she bought me for even when they were necessities.

So, here's the deal. I want my daughters to have nice things, but sometimes when my husband does generous things for them I feel jealous about it. I almost envy them because I never had the experience of a Dad who helped with college, bought musical instruments or helped them pay off a car. I don't express the feelings I have to them, its just how I feel inside. I don't like to envy my children for any of the good stuff that happens to them, thats wrong.

Bottom line, all people have feelings and we can't help how we feel, feelings just are what they are. But we can choose how we act, though and its never right to act jealous of someone's gifts or benefits.

This Dad's problem is not a psych. disorder unless He handles his jealousy is an unacceptable way, like destroying something of his daughter's or having a raging tantrum over something good that happens to one of them.

It would help the Father if he could talk to someone he trusts about this problem. That's if he even recognizes his jealousy is a problem. I've handled my jealous feelings by recognizing them and working through my feelings. It is something that just comes and goes for me, thankfully, its mostly a non-issue now that I know what it is.

Answer 5

It depends upon the way it influences his interactions with others. It's one thing to want what other people have. That is called coveting. It's another thing to be jealous. If he wants the attention which they get that would be jealousy. In as much as it tends to hurt his relationship with his daughters and the people who give them affection, it is a problem. You are likely in a better position to know if it is something that needs dealt with.

Answer 6

Is he jealous or is he concerned that his daughters are being spoiled rotten?

When I saw the word jealous, I thought you meant like he was jealous because you had a boyfriend. That wouldn't have been normal. If he doesn't like you recieving a lot of things because he wants you to learn to earn your rewards, that's another altogether.

Answer 7

Well, I find myself jealous of some people, and it's usually because I am not happy with my life and what I have achieved. It could be because you feel you did not achieve the goals you set yourself in life, or you feel you aren't good enough. Maybe you should try out counsilling, just to find out if there's and psychological problem behind it.

Answer 8

what was his reaction when they got these things? If he was simply upset that they received these things because he didn't think they deserved or needed the things has nothing to do with jealousy. If he wished he had them, that's another story. Which is it?

Answer 9

it's kinda normal. when people become parents they've got to make a promise to themself to give the best they can emotionally and needs wise to their children without becoming toxic and jealous because they never got that.

Answer 10

I'd say he is just very immature and very selfish.
Just typical male traits I'm afraid