2007-11-01 11:59:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u may need to devote more time to your marriage, go on dates, do fun things u use to do when u first met him. we can think we are bored and our feelings have changed but when this happens we need to really think it over and look closely to see if our reasons for not feeling the same are good reasons, and if they can be worked out.
2007-11-01 12:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's hard to say without more detail. Are there kids involved? How long until they are 18 and able to be on their own? You should stay until then, at least, if there are kids. Unless the marriage is abusive and/or the husband isn't a good father, that is.
Not sure how your feelings have changed, so cant give anything on that, do you mean you don't love him anymore? don't find him attractive anymore? what do you mean?
In any case, do NOT go out and have an affair. If it's that bad, then make a clean break of your marriage and keep your dignity intact. THEN date others.
2007-11-01 12:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree, a little bit more detail would be helpful, but.....
How have your feelings changed? Did something happen to make it so? If the answer is YES, then maybe looking at that and talking with him about it is a good start.
If this is something that has been growing with time (or fading in this case), it is normal for feelings to change in long term relationships. The butterflies go away and the giddy high school love feeling seems like a distant memory. This can be bothersome and downright disturbing to some - worried that it means something more.
My hunch is that your situation is different - that you feel like you are no longer compatible, that you are growing apart, or something. I would try marital therapy....like NOW. Maybe even do your own therapy work to see if there is something you can do individually to help the situation.
2007-11-01 12:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by Green Eyed Girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your feelings are suppose to change over the years, it grows stronger and more binding. If you are referring to your sex life then you are going through a phase.
Don't end a marriage of 14 years because of that. Try to rekindle your love. Do your best to romance your partner and he will follow suit and romance you. Take some personal time and remember your courtship and why you fell in love with him to start with.
Good Luck
2007-11-01 12:13:17 · answer #4 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well after 5 years of being together with my baby daddy I got tired of him.. lol.. Ok well to answer your question.. I used to be young and so naive and used to think once you fell in love with prince charming then he would be your prince for the rest of your life and ya will live happily ever after.... so much for me living in my own fairy tale.. I grew out of it and learned.. I dont believe love lasts forever. .And sometimes when those feeling arent there anymore.. it takes TWO to work on the relationship if ya still want it to work.. My parents were married for almost 25yrs and they divorced.. and I know a lot of other married couples that have been married longer and they divorced.. yes its' sad that after so long.. the love is no longer there.. but it happens and it just teached us a lesson....nothing is eternal in earth, only after we die
2007-11-01 12:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by evelyngrz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember that you vowed to be with him "for better or for worse."
If this fact does not offer you the comfort you seek, spend some time on hear reading other people's versions of "for worse."
You will see if you are willing to look how good you really do have it.
You need to accept that the problem is not your husband. The problem is you and you lack of vision.
Goo luck.
2007-11-01 12:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe you should try to start dating again , go out have some fun, do whatever it takes to fall in love again, may take a little time and effort but it's your life make the most of it.this worked for me i have been married for 19 years.
2007-11-01 12:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest counseling. You need to deal with this is an honest way with your husband. He needs to know.
2007-11-01 12:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by Delta D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little lacking in detail here.
Everyone's feeling change over time. Focus on what you want from him and what he wants from you. Relationships evolve. Roll with it.
2007-11-01 12:03:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
changed in what way do you not love him anymore. If you don't and he loves you try to talk to him that is all you can do is talk to him and get conseling for you both. Spice up your life.
2007-11-01 12:04:00 · answer #10 · answered by Lost 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋