IM OUT OF HOPE!!? wat to do???? PLEASE READ! im warning you its long...but PLEASE?

Question

im out of hope. lets start there.
first of all, i go to a private middle school that i HATE that only has about a hundred kids.
last year my best friend and one of my only friends moved to japan and wont even email me anymore.
my mom has a mental illness and my dad doesnt get it. often i am the one taking care of her, rather than the other way around.
my sister and brother, the only two people i have left both left for college.
today i just got cut from the basketball team i have been playing on since first grade, and three girls two years younger than me beat me for the last spots.
i started really liking this guy, the only guy ive really liked in awhile, and the girl i dont like most asks him out, he says yes and she persuades him to stop talking to me altogether. he used to call me and email me everyday, nowi call him every now and then and he totally ignores it and avoids me at school.
i feel hopeless, like i just cant do it anymore. i dont have anything left...wat to do??

Answer 1

When everything is going wrong, it is natural to feel as though this it is it, this is how your life is always going to be. But it isn't. You are young, your life is only just beginning. It won't always be like this. You can learn from the unpleasant experiences you are having. There will always be people who just don't turn out to be good friends. I too had a mother who depended on me for everything - and I didn't have a father around and my mother - I now realize but didn't then, was obviously mentally ill. She didn't even allow me to go to school - I had to stay home after I was 14 until I was 21. She never left the house and so on... And yes, I too felt depressed. But I looked forward.....one day, I will get out of this situation, one day it won't be like this. If people treat you badly, then it is they who are at fault, not you. The worse the experiences you have - and that you live through, the better you will be for it - you will become the sort of adult that understands a lot more about people and life and one day others will appreciate you for the person you have become - this has happened with me. You will be able to cope with more problems because you have gone through them. Don't let the issues that give you the feeling that you aren't good enough (such as the basketball team) - make you feel inferior. Find what you are good at, or enjoy, and concentrate on them. I used to write about my life, a sort of journal - it is something that psychologists also suggest, you get your feelings down on paper and it can get it out of your system, and who knows, it might make a good book one day. The fact is that we have to learn to rely on ourselves and be happy with just who we are because everyone gets knocked back by life either by "friends" or family, or circumstances. Some more than others. But the ones who are knocked down the most, and get up the most become the strongest in the end.

Answer 2

You're not out of hope. Just overwhelmed by responsibilities you aren't all that used to. Practice patience. That could help. And if the guy is avoiding you, he probably likes you a lot but since he's with someone else, he's doing his best to be loyal to that, first-come-first-serve girl. Okay.

And if your mom has a mental illness, don't wait for your dad to get it. Convince her to talk to the doctor and confirm your belief. If what you say is true, then you must take care of your mother. It is your duty as the last of the children in the household. Once you graduate, let your father take care of your mother.

If your friends in Japan won't contact you, that doesn't mean they hate you. It's just that they are busy and they have their own life now. Don't tell them negative things. Tell them something good for once and they might just reply.

If you fail in basketball, don't fret. If you really want to get back in it, practice on your own and prove that your are needed in the team.

If life gives you lemons, suck it and throw it back at them. Believe me. They will love you for it.

Answer 3

Yep I think you need to take a break for a while, if you've got any friends or family that live a while away, you could ask them if you could stay with them, even if it's just for a weekend or so. Then when you get back to school, you need to stop focusing on what you've lost and start thinking about wwhat you have, like all of your 'aquaintences' that you've always had but never really been friends with, you should try and get to know them more. And you can always e-mail/text or even write to your brother and sister.
You've just got to remember that school DOESN'T last forever even though it seems like it, when your still in education. Trust me when I say being in s private school can only help you really. You've got your whole life ahead of you, so you need to forget about the past live to the full and look forward to the future.
Thanks for reading my rant.

Answer 4

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Wow , U r so brave, U must be the bravest girl I have ever met ,
U have bear it all to this point , U r really really nice and great .. !

Ok , u sure can handle things urself , u r self dependent , u can take care of ur life and ur mother's life at the same time ...
but I want to help so here is my opinion from my point of view..

first , u hate ur school , feel free to hate it , but u have to live with it as long as there are no other options , I see that u already liked someone there .
second , I am really sorry to hear that ur best friends are ignoring u , but u know what . they can't be best friends if they don't talk to u , right ? if they were used to replying to ur messages before they left , then they must be having some issues that prevent them from replying now from japan , or else , they don't deserve to be ur friends anymore ... !
third , Ur mum has mental illness , does she take medication ? does she go to a doctor.?
if not , then persuade ur dad she must go , persuade him with what made u think that She has mental illness ... if he doesn't agree , then ask him to ask ur mum to stop doing whatever annoys u .
If she is going with a medication and u have to take care of her all the time , then u can hold on with that , u will get used to it by the time , or u can argue with ur dad to stop ignoring this part of duty so he can help a little around ....
fourth , u really shouldn't be annoyed cause some younger girls beat u in basketball , I know its really insulting , but looking at that from a different view can make it look better ,
they only succeeded cause u were not in the mood that day , or cause u were not concentrating , or even cause they are gifted or taller , or whatever circumstances allowed them to win , It must not concern u , basketball is gone ? there is alot of other activities that u can share in , u might find urself in one of the other more than u found urself in basketball ...

Fifth , u liked that guy and didn't ask him out ? why would u make him miss ur opportunity ? he might be a little shy and would like u to ask him out rather than him asking u out ...
I am not blaming u around , but I hope u got the lesson this time , since u came out defeated by ur (the girl i don't like most) ... wipe ur tears , and stop crying ... u might get to him one day but I think u shouldn't wait for that day ...

Look ahead upon ur life and move forth , don't let ur broken heart drag u behind ...
Don't know what to say more , I held u for so long depending on ur high patience ...

I guess, u will overcome it all without help , but I hope my words comforted a piece of ur heart ... having friends , falling in love , and other life pleasures are everywhere , u don't have to hang with one of them ... !

Good luck my pretty lady and Cheers

Answer 5

Get in touch with your siblings.

You don't explain at all what you mean about your mom, but maybe a teacher or counselor at school can talk to your father and help him realize that you have too much responsibility.

Forget about the guy; either he'll break up with the girl, or you'll get over him. You don't need the complication right now.

Answer 6

It sounds like you really need someone that you can lean on. It's good that you're able to take care of your mom, but that means that she's probably not an emotional support for you. Find someone, a teacher or older friend or anyone that you can talk to and who can give you advice and positive support.

I hope things look brighter soon!

Answer 7

Move on with your life. Life's not easy, life's not fair.
The way you ask the question is the way you look for the answer. A failed, B failed, C failed, D failed... You expect someone to tell you that there's a magic pill that's going to make it all right o to tell you to take the way out.
It's not like that. You have to make your own choices and live your own life. Just keep living it.

Just a bit of advice. Everything seems to be about the others, everything in your question, everything in your problems. What about you? It's YOUR life. You have to live your life, make the choices for your life and be responsible for it. Whether it goes right or wrong. If you live a life about the others and they all fail you, who's fault it is?

Answer 8

Listen,you are just living life....Your life sounds like everyone else.. just with a Different spin.There are many things to hope for to have a good education, to have your own family,to find true love.........long life........wealth.........Hope should be the start to get you going not the end. It is up to you to make disappointments into life lessons. You are what you think. think hopeful thoughts then you will have your hope back. think happy thoughts you will find happiness.

Answer 9

i feel real sorry. first of all, get a real good education as possible. second, i believe that friends aren't the most important thing in the world. try to take care of your mother, and this guy you're talking about is a jerk. he wasn't you're type anyway.

Answer 10

go on vacation and BREATHE FOR YOURSELF