Who does the majority of work around the house? Does this cause tension? Who works most outside the house?
2007-11-01 09:56:12 · 26 answers · asked by Courtney 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say I do most of the housework but then, most times I like it that way. If I had a problem with this, my dh would step in and help.
He does the majority of the yard work.
He works outside the home more than I do, but I also have two jobs that have all kinds of hours, leaving him to tend to the kids and odd housework at the busiest times.
We have three young children.
No complaints from either of us.
2007-11-01 10:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do about equal amount of work around the house. I take care of all the mundane everyday things like groceries, cooking, dishes, laundry, pets, and my husband tackles bigger projects like cleaning the garage or fixing things. Outside the house, my husband works way more than I do - I have a regular 9-5 job while he's running his own business. He puts in a lot more hours, and it's much more stressful for him. He also makes 3-4 times more than I do. We don't have any tension in regards to the division of labor. I try to take over as many small things as possible, so he can be free to concentrate on the bigger picture.
2007-11-01 10:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He makes the money and I take care of the house and our 6y/o. I am not a very tidy person though so this causes a lot of friction. He feels like the relationship is lopsided a lot of the time.
I just try not to get defensive when he asks me to do something that I should've done already. I'm consistently improving too, which helps.
When we were both working, he and I shared house responsibilities equally. Generally I would take care of the bathrooms and the laundry and keeping our bedroom tidy, he kept the downstairs tidy and did the home improvement type stuff and the dishes. Having a task that each person was responsible for made it easier when I'd slack off because I'd see how clean his parts were and how crappy mine were in comparison.
2007-11-01 10:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the time of the year.
8 - 9 months out of the year, I do 99% of everything. He works for an asphalt company and the majority of their work is further away (60 miles or more) so he's on the road Monday thru Friday or Saturday.
During the winter, he's on layoff so he does more of his "share" by making home improvements, taking care of kids, fixing dinner, etc.
I attend night classes at a university 45 miles away two nights a week. Our kids are also getting older and ready for more responsibility, too. Our daughter is 9 and helps with the dishes. Our sons, ages 5 & 8, help collect the trash cans from the bathrooms.
So it's not exactly shared, but it works.
2007-11-01 10:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do the majority of the house work (I'm the woman). This includes laundry, tidying up the home (I have a cleaning service that does the real deep cleaning every other week, but they only clean what they can get to! LOL) Grocery shopping, homework with the kids, kid's bathtime. I also work outside the home for wages part-time and take the kids to their after school activities half the time. I also do half the cooking and half the lawn work. Hubby does half the cooking and half the lawn work. He sometimes helps with homework, and he takes the kids to after school activities half the time too. He works full-time outside of the home earning wages.
This works well for us, but there have been times when I have wanted more help from him. It's taken us 11 years to get to this point, but I feel really good about our 'division' of labor.
2007-11-01 10:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I both own businesses and work about 60 hours a week--even more for him (he's at the restaurant from 6am-10pm Mon-Sat.) I take care of all the little things around the house...cleaning, laundry, pets, decorating...you know.
He takes care of the bigger things, or hires someone to do it. We have a person who takes care of the lawn and the pool, and sometimes have someone to come clean if I had to be at my office all week.
We don't typically have tension over this because we both respect eachother's work and understand long hours. Sometimes it's the best we can do just to come home and fall into the bed...
2007-11-01 10:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by Tina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The maid does the majority of the sloppiness that passes for housework here. Yes it causes tension. i would rather do it myself and have the money than pay someone to do a halfassed job, but that might cause my wife to suffer from social stigma. I work most outside the house.
2007-11-01 10:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is somewhat 50/50 I do most of the outside work and the handyman sort of stuff and help do dishes and mainly the cooking. She is really good with the finances and general cleaning. I work full-time and she is a fulltime student. House chores are a part of marriage they should be equal to some degree.
2007-11-01 10:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do the majority of work around the house, including raising our 3 children. My husband works outside the house and earns a good living so we can afford this lifestyle.
2007-11-01 10:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by J Mack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We both work full time jobs, he works as a welder and I am a secretary. I do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry and take care of our teenager and our pets. I mow the yard and am usually the one to wash our cars. Yes, it causes tension because I feel like I do everything! I also have a lot of pride though. I don't want to ask for help because I feel like I shouldn't have to. He should just know~~
2007-11-01 10:01:45 · answer #10 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋