HELP: My Best Friend Hates Me Because I'm Too Weird!?

Question

I was talking with a few friends of mine, we get along really well because we don't really care what other people think and we have a lot of positive energy and a great sense of humor. So as all four of us are talking about gay people (we have no shame, we talk about EVERYTHING) by BEST FRIEND comes up to my face and says: "Why the hell are you always so weird? OMG You need to STOP!" Then she walked away and left me trying not to cry. She is the most beautiful person I have ever laid eyes on and Ive been her friend ever since first grade. She's popular and bossy and smart and a real bookworm and she teases me about how ugly my spiky hair is I sent her an e-mail about what I thought about that, but I can't post it here, it's too long.
Anyways, I was just an elementary school kid when A.) I was touched inappropriately by a family member and B.) I was abused by my immediate family (Father, Mother, Brother)
I've never told anyone before, and I cut myself occasionally.
What should I do!?

I'm only in my freshman year. I love her like a sister we've been through so much together But we're complete opposites she's funny and confident, I'm quiet reserved, and constantly thinking about what others think about me!
I sent her an email: "So suddenly I'm too weird to be your friend? Haven't I been weird ever since I first met you? Does it insult you when I'm not normal enough to be considered 'popular' by your standards?
When have I ever criticized you about the way you act? An example would be nice, by all means!
Is my father really paranoid, and weird because of wanting to protect his family? Well what a coincidence, your father has an alarm for his house too!
You know what that must make you-here it is- WEIRD Are you angry because I've made new friends? Are you angry because I'm not sitting next to you at lunch? Are you angry because I don't like YOUR new friends? If you have a problem with me, just say it because I don't appreciate the way you insult time after time again."

Answer 1

I think you should spend less time with this girl and more time with the friends that appreciate you. She is just being rude and snotty (as people can be sometimes). If she feels the things you are saying are inappropriate or that your hair would look better another way, she should say it in a constructive way. Maybe she could say something like "these people are more conservative in their discussions, so they may not appreciate your humor about gay people" or "your hair is very cool and it's great that you are able to be yourself, but I really liked it long on you also, it really flattered your face". This may seem like manipulation, but I think it's consideration and she's not showing you any, I think.

Answer 2

you should seriously think abt if
she reallyis a friend cause it would
be strange if she
is allthough she has always
been teasing you-but maybe
that was in a friendly way,
i cant know.
i think you should consider
being with other close friends
at the moment
you dont know what shes thinking
right now.
she may have just lost control
but if
she managed to walk up to you
and say youre weird she could
be thinking abt stopping the
friendship-it could be
because of a
reason you cant think of at the
moment-think-what exactly did
you do and say at about that
time when she said that-
maybe
youll remember.
hope shes lucky to be
good friends with you again
soon
email or IM me 4 some
help if you want to

Answer 3

It's okay to be weird, just be who you are and no one else! I think you're awesome. Why do like this bossy popular girl so much? You don't need her approval on how to behave. She seems like a straight up you-know-what to me. But you two have history so I guess I can't judge. Trust me, as you get older people try harder and harder in stand out from the crowd. You're lucky to have such an eccentricity about you right NOW. Don't throw it away because one of your "friends" can't appreciate that in you. About the other thing, you need to talk to a guidance counselor as soon as you can. It might be the reason why you're so insecure about being who you are. Good luck.

Answer 4

"Beautiful" people don't berate their friends in front of other people and leave them there fighting back tears....She may be pretty, but that's not beautiful behavior. You seem to have her up on a pedastal of sorts; you shouldn't. She puts her pants on the same way you do: one leg at a time, and some of her behavior is downright ugliness; certainly nothing to envy. Maybe your more positive friends are a better fit for you....they make you happy, you're free to be yourself, and they don't pass judgments on your actions. They sound like real friends. Life's too short to spend your time with folks that make you miserable.
Next issue: find someone you trust to discuss your past experiences with (like a school counselor or your family physician) because these issues left unaddressed can have devastating effects on you....such as occasionally cutting yourself. Please try not to do harm to yourself. You're exactly who you were created to be (though you have some growing to do yet). God doesn't make mistakes. Have a great life!

Answer 5

Ask her calmly what she meant by that comment, and tell her that it hurt you deeply. Tell her that you are an independent person, and both of you have different ideas about things and that's okay. If you don't like the answers you are getting, then start hanging out with your other friends more and her less.

My guess is she was embarassed and thinks your comments will reflect on her rep. (This doesn't mean it's true - just that she thinks it.) If you aren't more important to her than that, she's not really your best friend, and the sooner you find out the better.

Answer 6

I got a little confused about what you are talking about, but if you are a cutter you need to get some help for that. That is not healthy for you and your body. I hope you will take my advice and talk to the school nurse or therapist about that issue. As far as your friend goes, it sounds like maybe you need to talk to her and let her know the deal with you and let her know how much you appreciate her friendship. I was also getting the impression that maybe you want to be more than just friends with her. Once again try talking to her and letting her know your feelings. Also if you need someone to talk to our need someone just to listen you can email me. I have some resources to if you need help with the cutting etc. Let me know. Good luck, God Bless and Take Care

Answer 7

That really stinks, I assume your either a Middle schooler or high schooler, I'm a middle schooler so I'll try my best to help out.
I know this will be hard, but don't be friends with this girl, apperenty that girl dosen't like you for who you really are!Try to meet new friends- who like you for who you are, and once you find that one true friend who respects you for who you are- then the friend situation is at an ease.
And I know how the cutting feels- There was a time I cut also, so don't feel alone.

If you need some one to talk to- you can message me any time- I'll be there for you.
Good luck! :)

Answer 8

It sounds as if she's jealous because you weren't paying her enough attention. She pretty much has you where she wants you, through little digs at your appearence etc. She's using you to feed her own ego and is having a tantrum because you're getting liked and noticed by other people.

Let her stew in it and have fun with your other friends, she's the last person you need in your life, especially considering what you have been and are going through.
You don't need or deserve that kind of negative influence, remember that.

Answer 9

Do you spot issues about your human beings that hardship you, yet you're polite and also you're nonetheless accepting of your persons? You sound like a pupil form. books make good associates too.

Answer 10

I can understand what your saying about being touched inappropriately by family members and cutting yourself. i have done that too.

With you friend problem, if she can't accept you for who you are and critisizes you then your don't want to be friends with a person like that. she is obviously not a good friend if she treats you like that. you deserve better. stay with the four friend that join in with you, at least they no how to have a laugh and they are not going to judge you over anything.

good luck.