Bring up the name of the person you had an affair with to your spouse?
Just to bring it up out of the blue.
You both just watched a movie and were talking about it and they mention a witty comment and give their ex-lover credit for it. For example: Bob used to say "blah blah blah"
If the spouse alread knew that the two of you had an affair wouldn't this be putting salt in an open wound?
So why the heck bring up your own dirty laundry?
2007-11-01 09:00:34 · 23 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've noticed that women tend to do this more then men, and I don't know why. It is a very thoughtless thing to do and I think it is just plain wrong. If the shoe were on the other foot you would never here the end of it. I will say this for something to think about: Was the intention to hurt you or was it an Innocent remark? It always has to do with the persons intention.
2007-11-01 09:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by April First 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's appropriate..if you are looking at getting a dig in to hurt someone.
I thik that that is extremely insensitive and rude and I would be wondering if the affair was really over.
2007-11-01 16:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just stay away from this. I wouldn't even bring up the subject. If something happened in the past, forget about it and move one.
2007-11-01 16:07:19 · answer #3 · answered by One Bad Mama Jama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, how totally tactless. Bringing up a past lover would be bad enough, but someone you cheated with is totally rude and insensitive.
2007-11-01 16:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh, no. If you're the one doing it, you're a moron, so stop. If she's the one doing it, you might consider reevaluating your situation, because (a) she's obviously not ashamed of what she did, and (b) she doesn't think enough of you to consider your feelings before she opens her trap. At minimum, you should call her out about it. And check her cellphone records.
2007-11-01 16:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by Humberto 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think i tis ever appropriate. Unless it is the other way around, where my wife brings something up from someone from my past.
2007-11-01 16:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by David G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you describe is extremely rude, and insensitive to your feelings. No, it's not appropriate. You seem to be married to a very inconsiderate woman. I think you would be well within your rights to demand an apology.
2007-11-01 16:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why would ex'es name even come out in the conversation? My ex is the last thing on my mind!!!
Are you sure that you are over him?
2007-11-01 16:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by terliuke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's about as smart as sticking your finger in a boiling vat of grease, and expecting it not to hurt.
2007-11-01 16:24:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats inappropriate. It was past. Its not likable when some one talks about their ex to their present gf or bf.
2007-11-01 17:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by SweetS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋