Husband wants to name son after himself?

Question

My husband wants to name our son after himself. At the beginning of my pregnancy, I agreed. But I have had second thoughts, and I no longer want to name our son after my husband. I told him that it would confuse people, including myself. When I suggested that we have his name as our sons middle name, he ignored me. Now he's refusing to have anything to do with picking out names. He claims ALL names are ugly except his own. I told him that he's being really childish, and I would really like him to consider other names too. But he just glares at me and refuses to say or do anything.

Should I just go ahead and pick my own names and name our son myself, even if he doesn't like it? Is there any other way I can try to get him involved with picking a name other than his own? Naming after our fathers is not an option, I have suggested this and it was turned down too.

Answer 1

Give your son his father's first name. YOU pick the middle name, and call him by THAT name.

ex: Your husband's name is James; you pick Michael. Name your son James Michael and call him Michael.

Answer 2

I think you should include your husband in the naming process, and vice versa. If there are discrepancies on both sides, you simply need to come to a compromise. Easier said than done, and you must widen the lines of communication to reach a decision. A child's name is a sensitive issue for couples...not only does the child have to live with the name all his life, so do his parents. I've always placed special value on family names...it's comforting and wonderful to honor someone by naming your child after them. However, I'm not one for carbon copies. I believe every child should have at least one name all his or her own. I understand why people do the "Jr." thing, it just isn't for me. My husband and I also had problems with his name being the same as his dad's. His parents ran into hard times several years ago and filed bankruptcy. When we proceeded to purchase a home a few years after that, we discovered that not only did the bankruptcy show up on our credit report - from all three reporting agencies - but also some of his mom and dad's delinquent accounts were reported as being ours. It took a full year and a lot of hassle to get those things removed and have our names cleared. I'm sure not everyone has problems like that, but that was our experience.

It just sounds like you and your husband really need to talk more about this. One piece of advice that I've heard is not to name your baby until you see him or her...you might have the perfect name picked out and realize the first time you see the baby that it just doesn't fit. Whatever you decide, good luck and congrats.

Answer 3

If I have a son, I don't want to give my child his father exact name so I decided I will just add a name in front of the father's name so he still got the father's name but is not junior.

Ex: Father name is David Lee Jones, I will name child Ethan David Lee Jones

You can also give your son, your husband first name as middle name. You can switch your husband first and middle name around (Ex: David Lee change to Lee David).

I hope I helped. Your husband will eventually come around to the idea.

Your reasoning for being confusing is so true. I know several people with children with there name and had bad situations. For example, my uncle and his son got the same name. My cousin was working at this bank and the bank sent the paycheck to my cousin and uncle house. My uncle got the check, cashed it and spent it. To make a short story, the bank did not put junior on the check and my cousin did not get his money back.

Answer 4

Why are men such babies?
I like someone's idea to give your son your husband name in reverse (middle name as first and first name as his middle). This might be preferable to having a 'Junior.' (I think that the 'name' junior is awful. It's like an un-name.)
If you just go along with your husband you will resent the fact that you 'bowed' to his (unreasonable) wishes (even if you initially agreed, pregnant women will agree to anything in the beginning when we are nauseous or exhausted or feeling like crap).
If you choose to just name the baby all by yourself then your husband will resent you and could become more baby-ish and bitter.
Of course none of this may happen. Once your son is here his father might snap out of his whole 'moron' phase. Some men get soooo stressed out during pregnancy and then are so relieved after childbirth (along with thinking that you are miraculous for living through such a thing) that they are willing to compromise or even let you have your way. Besides you don't have to have a name (officially) until you have the baby and are getting ready to leave the hospital.
Whatever you do, good luck!!!! COngratulations!

Answer 5

My husband and his father have the same exact name, my in-laws never added Junior to my husbands name. EVERY time my husband and I have had our credit run for cars, loans, credit cards, etc. They always hand us his fathers credit history and not my husbands. It is just a pain to have to explain that it's not his, but his fathers and then to make sure that his fathers credit has not been affected by that. When my son was born we gave him an original first name and my husbands middle name as a middle name. That way their is still a bit of tradition, but their will never be any confusion. You and your husband should really compromise on your baby's name, unfortunately you already agreed to a name so this may be a bit of an up-hill battle for you. Good luck to you

Answer 6

All I have to say is DO NOT GIVE IN! I hate the same name being carried through generations.... there is a reason there are thousands of names to choose from.

I don't even like this idea, but maybe use his name as the middle name.

This is why I had the conversation when I was only dating my husband. I made sure he didn't want a son named after him... I refuse to do that. It's too bad if he changes his mind later.

Answer 7

I know PLENTY of fathers/sons with the same name and confusion between the two is RARELY an issue. Especially depending on the name. For instance, if it's Robert, then dad goes by whatever his normal nickname is - for this example we'll use Bob. Then the son goes by Rob or Bobby or Robbie. Or if it's a name that doesn't have multiple nickname options, you just add y or ie to the end like Mike and Mikey. And once the son is older it doesn't really matter anymore. Or if you don't like those options, you just call your son by his middle name (assuming dad goes by his first name).

So anyway, if confusion is your only issue (and that's the only one you cited), then I wouldn't worry about it. Make your hubby happy and name the baby after him.

Answer 8

What is your husband's name???
Well what I would do is try to talk to him againa and suggest choices like Nicholas ( husbands name). Then see what he says. If you like your husbands name then call your son it but give him a different middle name. Then no one can be confused. You can even call your son by his middle name. good luck. Hope I helped. :]

Answer 9

He is not being childish because he wants to name his son after himself. If he will not come to an agreement on any other name and you name the child yourself he will never forgive you and might look at the child differently because of it. And you should seriously think about the reprocussions of not doing as he asks before just counting it out! You could name the baby after him and call the baby "Jr." for instance. This would be better than not including him, and naming the baby yourself. He will feel excluded and let's face it, the last thing you need is to have one little baby and one big baby to deal with at the same time! I may sound kind of like an @ss for saying this but it is the truth. You should be thankful that you have a husband that wants to be involved and that your baby has a father instead of trying to control every aspect of the birth. Don't take this away from him,...you will regret it!

Answer 10

Well, I understand that is improtant for some men to have their son's named after them. Is there any way he would go for the same 1st name and a different middle name that way your son could be called by the middle name?