What are the responsabilty of a man ,and a wommen that are married?

Question

how should the bills be handle? and how should the house chores be handle? and how should they communicate to each other to keep from having miss understandings.what to do to keep a marrige in good standing

Answer 1

You do whatever works. Responsibility is doing it if it needs to be done. You should be responsible for everything you deem important and so should your partner.

The only real responsibility in marriage is to take care of the children and to take care of your spouse if incapacitated.

Answer 2

Since I am the only one working right now. I make the money and let my wife take care of paying the bills. I don't know why but women seem to have a handle on a checkbook and making sure things are paid on time. Now don't look at me that way, when I was single I did fine with the bills, but she does a good job and I trust her with it. The house hold chores should be shared. Maybe take turns doing the dishes, or even do them together (one wash, one dry). Also, do your best to be compassionate, if your husband has done a lot that day or a rough day at work, maybe let him off easy for certain jobs. Also he should do the same. There are going to be good and bad days, but comprimise and communication is what holds a relationship together. TALK out problems and the best advice I ever got, DON'T go to bed mad. Always make up, trust me you'll sleep better.

Answer 3

All of those questions are dependent on the couple. I never thought I would have joint accounts with a husband (like checking or savings), but my boyfriend and I are planning to have joint everything. The joint accounts come in handy for paying bills. Since it is both your money, then the bills will be paid from both people equally. If you don't want to do it that way, then make a list of all your bills. Maybe your mortgage/rent payment should be taken care of by one person and all the other bills by the other, as long as it is equal. But then you get into one person have more original debt than the other (like me: I have a student loan and credit cards that equal over $10,000 but he doesn't have that much debt - I would still be solely responsible for my debt). This is why I agree with a joint checking account. With chores, that all depends again. I am the one that cooks so my boyfriend usually does the dishes. It is all about give and take. Since I am a list person, I would make lists. I would do it for kids like a chore list, so why not your spouse and yourself? This way, it is clear what needs to be done and who is supposed to do it and it is agreed upon in the beginning. Hope this all makes sense!

Answer 4

Ultimately, the benefit of being married is that the "sum is greater than its parts". Each of you will have strengths that can make you work more efficiently as a married unit. For example, my wife is not a "bills" person. If we went 50/50 on paying them, she would waste hours as a "marriage unit" with her half. I've always been good with finances, and therefor she hasn't paid a bill in 7 years. We both enjoy having a vegetable garden, but she's a lot better at it than I am, so she has essentially taken those duties from me. The key is to toss out the idea of "gender specific roles". For some reason, I'm better at laundry than my wife, so I do it all. She cleans the gutters (I hate being on the ladder). She washes the cars. I clean the house. As long as all the work is distributed equally. If both of you work at a job the same type of hours during the week, then the housework gets divided equally. If he works and you don't, then you take on more of the chores. If you have kids, and he works while you stay at home, then you still split the time of taking care of the kids when he is home (i.e., you are both "working" 40 hours...you with kids, him with job...then you are splitting the remaining time when you're both home).

Your goal should be to provide yourselves with as much leisure time as possible. It wouldn't be fair for one person to be stuck doing all the chores, errands and kids 150 hours a week while the spouse works 40 hours a week at a "job".

Finally, don't fall into the pitfall of his money vs. your money. It is your collective money. It goes into one account. It pays all the bills. You are one unit, not two separate people cohabiting.

Answer 5

I believe that is up to each couple. My wife and I have an unwritten constitution: the health of the marriage comes first, and the health (mental, psychological, spiritual) of our child(ren) is the embodiment of the health of our marriage.

Inside those restrictions, anything goes.

Selfish actions by their own nature are unconstitutional and are therefore forbidden. A difference of opinion regarding the greater good is always open for discussion under the rules of debate.

When it comes to chores, whoever is best at a given task does it, but the other person had better have sufficient skill to serve as backup.

Whichever spouse is actually in charge of the child(ren) at a given moment shall not be subject to reprimand for necessary actions taken, but those actions are open for later joint analysis in search of a better solution for next time.

Answer 6

The work should be split equally, with whichever partner is the best at a particular job doing that job.

Example- I do the cooking, which normally the woman does, but I like it and I'm good at it. My wife does the dishes. I do the yard & the cars, she does the laundry. We split the housekeeping, and the banking. Works pretty good.

Answer 7

When my wife and I first got married, we were both working and we set down and divided up the responsibilities. When she started having children and stayed home, she took on more of a 1950's wife role. She took care of the inside of the house and I the outside. She still did the bills which most likely 1950's women did not.

Answer 8

Have a sit down and discuss what each other feels comfortable doing. Maybe take turns with chores. Also, the money should be handled together.

Answer 9

One person should handle the finances it is just less confusing this way, house chores should be equally shared, communication just keep it open and honest. Do not fight over BS and just say I love you everyday atleast once.

Answer 10

Think back to the marriage vows.....what did you both say to oneanother?Has this been working?Did you both mean them?I think the most important,if you used the standard vow;'s is,cherish! You both need to talk about the issues you have raised.It is not about,who should pay for what,but rather,who wants to pay the other's share.If you are both working,and on similar money.....then you could try one paying everything,and the other saving everything.....for a house of your own,a holiday,a new car,whatever. BUT YOU NEED TO TALK!!!!!!

Answer 11

Those are all things the couple decides on their own. More 'traditional' couples have the woman do the household chores and the man make the money and do the more physically challenging chores. It doesn't have to be that way.