i feel like its my fault... if i was still her friend... maybe it would not have happened
2007-11-01 08:06:54 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can't blame youself. You had no idea she would ever do something like this. She made this choice and it is in no way your fault.
2007-11-01 08:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by misbotta 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are having to deal with a suicide. It is never easy.
However, your former friend probably did whatever caused you to stop being her friend on purpose. She didn't want to face the guilt of taking her life and leaving a friend behind. Does that make sense?
People who commit suicide usually give away their most prized possessions. In your case, she gave you away by stabbing you in the back (or whatever).
Please try not to blame yourself for your friend's actions. You were in no way responsible. Your friend made her decision probably long before she actually killed herself. You all were probably still friends when she started planning her suicide.
So sorry to hear you are going through something I have been through 4 times. I hope this is the only time you have to deal with such a horrible loss.
2007-11-01 08:17:10 · answer #2 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life and death are hard to understand when it happens out of the blue or because someone was old. if you spend all you time thinking about what might of been and what could have happened you will find yourself in a very deep dark place. You loved her I am sure but to set and think that it was your fault is not going to bring her back or make things any better. if you keep having feelings like this you might want to talk to someone that you are close to and can trust.
2007-11-01 08:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How awful, we cannot control what others do.it wasn't your fault, if a person has the prepensity to take one's own life, it's no body's fault, she obviously had some real deep problems, mentally, that would may have happened regardless of your friendship
2007-11-01 08:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by poopsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not at fault.
There was much more going on in her mind than just the loss of your friendship. I doubt if it would have mattered either way for you to still have been her friend.
Say a prayer and move on.
2007-11-01 08:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by m_c_m_a_n 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand, your girl friend had a problem that seems to run in family's . She was depressed and really needed to seek God! If you feel bad it is understandable but don't blame your self.
2007-11-01 08:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by maur911 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my uncle took his life and although he was still my uncle I felt it was my fault, that I could prevent it.
It's not your fault, but it's normal to feel guilty because it appears as a shoc to you. But if you think of it, you'll find hints that will show you she thought about it befire you broke your friendship and that nobody could prevent it.
2007-11-01 08:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by lisasimpson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It DEFINATLY wasn't your fault. Everyone she knew is probably feeling the same way now. She did it because SHE made a bad decision, you did NOTHING.
2007-11-01 08:30:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have possibly prevented it but that doesn't mean it's your fault. You didn't know it was going to happen and you didn't provoke it. Do you always make things like this about you?
2007-11-01 08:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by Kid 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not your fault. She obviously had problems she couldn't resolve or thought she couldn't. It's very common for people left behind to blame themselves, and wonder "what if....?" - you can't really do that, it isn't your fault.
2007-11-01 08:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by Judy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋