Do you think a spouse who spends a lot of her free time in chatrooms is purely doing this for fun or do you think there would be other motives behind this ?
2007-11-01 08:05:52 · 25 answers · asked by Tony H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think she experimented initially by talking to other men and do know there were some very flirty conversations but she now seems to spend majority of her time talking to gay guys, and getting a perspective on their lives.
2007-11-01 10:55:33 · update #1
depends on what's going on in there-but chatrooms? need to get a better hobby and get some fresh air...
2007-11-01 08:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you'd like to spend time with her. If she hears your request and then logs on to a chat room for two hours. Then you have your answer.
You can't be expected to beg to give her attention. In other words, "Honey, can I please give you attention?". Yeah right.
She wants attention, offer it to her. Put in your best effort and if it doesn't work. Then you need to move on. Communication and attention is not just a man's burden. You need attention too.
to answer your question. chat room can be perfectly innocent. No different than your wife talking to her best girlfriend on the phone or something. Not to worry. However, follow your instincts. Give her the benefit of the doubt...yes you might just be a paranoid person, but keep your eyes open. hours a day in a chat room...that means something! Do you feel something is up? then perhaps it is.
2007-11-01 08:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surely you should realize there are diffferent motives. Yes this is a question answer site but not really a chatroom persay. If she is going to chat rooms it means she is getting attention that she wants and that you do not give her the attention she wants. I would tell her that her being in chatrooms hurts your feelings and if she loves you that she will stop. It is common knowledge that chatrooms can lead to in person encounters and encounters can lead to adultery?. Do you rerally want that possiblity in your marriage?.
2007-11-01 08:18:04 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay it totally depends on who she is talking to.
If it's men and she is talking cyber sex then no it's not innocent. That's cheating.
If it's friends and it's general chit chat to pass the time whilst your doing something else then that's OK.
That's no different than chatting to a friend on the phone or sending a letter to a pen pal.
2007-11-01 09:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by Louise H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chatrooms are not the problem....PEOPLE are. I am married and chat some, but make it VERY clear that I am married and not interested cybering etc or off color remarks. I keep it light and choose rooms that are discussion oriented to topics I enjoy...not meat markets.
2007-11-01 08:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely your spouse it doing this for fun and for attention...in most cases it's pretty harmless, but this is not to say that it couldn't turn in to something bigger. I think that if you feel at all uncomfortable about what your spouse is doing, you should confront the situation now before you let it get any worse.
2007-11-01 08:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by missapparition 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think someone needs to be spending time in chatrooms if they're happily married. Install K9 web filter and block chatrooms. Problem solved.
2007-11-01 08:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Innocent? Chatrooms?
is that a joke?
Certainly not! It's the beginning of the end, but apart from that..
2007-11-01 08:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are she is doing some cyber flirting, but it could be innocent. Do you trust her? If not, that is the bigger issue! You need to talk to her. If this bothers you, then she should be willing to either include you, so you can feel more secure, or stop all together.
2007-11-01 08:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally depends.. I go in chatrooms when I'm seriously bored, but you could go chat for other reasons obviously. But if that's all they're doing I wouldn't get all suspicious..
2007-11-01 08:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋