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I was kind of sad when I found out it was a boy. I hate trucks and action figures. I was looking forward to having a girl to dress up and play barbies with. I just don't think that if I have a son I will bond with him the way I could with a girl. Did anyone else go though this? I am ashamed to be disapointed but that's just how I feel.

2007-11-01 07:55:14 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

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To tell you the truth I kinda feel the same way. I know that I'm having at least one boy and I know that the chances for me having both babies be boys is high, since there's a majority of males on both sides of our family. While I am scared that I won't bond and be as close as I would if I had a daughter (because the only way that I will have a baby girl now is if we adopt, I'm not going to get pregnant again) I keep my focus on the fact that in a few short weeks there's going to be two adorable babies that I helped make that I will be caring for, and I look forward to all of the moments of being a mom. Granted, I don't get into all of the trucks, action figures and such, but until the kids get to be the age of playing with toys like that instead of teethers and such, I will focus on caring for the babies and watching them grown and learn. While I am a little sad that I won't be having a daughter at this time to play with Barbies and such, I am happy that I will get to see all of the little moments and spend my days watching the twins grow up. It all depends on your perspective, really. I think that in time after the baby is born you will connect and while things may be different for you because you aren't having a girl at the moment, you will still have a special bond forever because that's your baby. I hope that this helped you out. Best of luck!

2007-11-01 08:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 0 0

I didn't go through exactly the same thing, but when I had my first born (a boy) I was a little concerned I wouldn't know how to relate to him as well as I would if I'd had a girl. Turns out I was 100% wrong. Sure, I can't dress him up in the cute girl cloths, but you know, there are some awefully nice boy clothes out there nowadays. Really, it's not a big deal, at least not to me.

As for the playing, well, he's taught me how ;). He loves all the boy stuff, like the action figures and such, but he's also incredibly sensitive and perceptive. He's a big snuggle muffin and he adores his mommy and I just couldn't imagine my life without him. He makes every single day and adventure and he makes me laugh like no one I've ever known.

Don't worry. Once you hold that beautiful little boy in your arms, everything will be good. You'll grow with him, and the bonding will happen naturally. I promise.

Good luck!

2007-11-01 08:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by lapis 4 · 2 0

What makes you think every boy wants to play with trucks and action figures?? It's fine that you were disappointed when you found out, but that's over now. Start checking out all the adorable boys clothes and toys on the market now.

Maybe your boy will be into animals, or construction, or singing, or drawing, or a hundred other things. Your job will be to show him the whole world and let him see what he likes the best.

By the way I have three children (all grown up now), two sons and a daughter, and I have always been closer to the boys. Boys and their moms....that's a special bond.

2007-11-01 08:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by notmuchofacook 4 · 1 0

Believe me you Will bond. First off my son is more attached to mommy than my daughter. I am also closer to both my boys as they seem so much more sensitive than my girl does. They are still into trucks and stuff but they also like other things that I enjoy. Even if you were having a girl you can not pick there personality. My little girl does like nail polish and stuff but she would prefer digging in the dirt for worms or climbing trees. Not to mention she hates dresses. Boys are really just as fun, you'll see. Just think you might raise that tiny little baby boy to be a wonderful husband and daddy some day.

2007-11-01 08:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of Pryor 2 · 2 0

Congratulations! I felt very similar and believe it or not many people do. I was looking forward to having a little girl with all my heart but the minute I realized how blessed I was to have a healthy boy I stopped in my tracks. My dad also told me about boys adoring their mothers which is true.

My son is two years old now and I couldn't be more happy about having a boy! I love trucks, cars, bikes, and the outdoors more than I ever have. I'm actually hoping I'm pregnant with another boy!

What it comes down to is that your baby is healthy. Sure, you can have different levels of gender disappointment but when you see him for the first time you'll realize it really doesn't matter. Best of Luck!!

2007-11-01 08:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2 0

I remember wanting a girl before I found out I was having a boy. I wasn't disappointed, and now I'm glad to have a son (and am a little nervous that the baby I'm carrying now will be a girl!) My boy is a truck/car freak, but other than that he doesn't seem to prefer any specific "boy toys". He doesn't have any action figures (well, he doesn't watch TV so he wouldn't know who they were anyway), no guns or swords, no dinosaurs. Other than cars and trucks he loves to play with stuffed animals, toy people and toy furniture (my fiance won't let me get him a doll house, lol), crayons etc, dress up clothes (not girly things, but things like boots and fun hats), books, and outside toys for both genders, like bikes, chalk and balls (though he's not big on sports....that may be my fault, haha)

2007-11-01 08:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by fawnberrie 5 · 2 0

I know exactly how you feel. I didn't care what my 1st baby was (boy) but with my 2nd I wanted a girl sooo bad. I wanted everything to be pink and pretty and from the day I found out that I was pregnant I knew that it had to be a girl. I was in complete shock when I got my sonogram and they told me it was a boy. I felt so bad because I was so upset. I felt really bad for my husband because it was his first child and he was ecstatic and I didn't talk to him for days cause he was happy about it. I told him it was his fault cause he wished it would be a boy. It took some time and a lot of denile but I got over it. I love my boys with all of my heart and I wouldn't change anything about them now. and the good news is that they will have a baby sister this spring! Just remember you can most likely have more babies so chances are if you keep trying you'll get your girl. I'm the most unlucky person in the world and even I'm getting my girl!

2007-11-01 08:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by Megan 2 · 1 0

I was very disapointed during my last pregnancy. I had 1 girl and 2 boys. I wanted a baby girl SOOOO bad and the Dr told me he was 80% sure it ws a girl...so I picked out a girl's name, bought pink tiings...then 6 weeks before the baby was born an u/s showed that it was a boy. I cried. I couldn't even pick out a name and so I let his father name him....

Fast foward 6 years later and I can't imagine life w/o my lil guy. He is great. I loved him from the minute I saw him.

I am now 17 weeks pg with what will be my last and I am SOOOO hoping for a girl. My fiance wants a boy cuz he has only one cihld, a daughter (by his ex). So no matter what this baby is, I will love it.

2007-11-01 08:03:00 · answer #8 · answered by Willow 5 · 1 0

Well, I have good news! Your baby will be the most beautiful thing you've ever seen and when he is born - you really aren't going to care about anything except that it's over and he's healthy!
Now - I have had 3 daughters and 1 son, who I had last. When I had my girls, I was relieved because I WANTED girls. I grew up around all girls and it was more comfortable for me. When we finally had our son though, I adored him and I've never wished we would have had a girl in his place! I loved dressing him up to be a handsome boy, I loved buying him boy things, everything! He looks so much like his dad too! He is my most sensitive child and he is a mama's boy! He would never let the whole world know, but he's the one who wants ME when something isn't right, when he's sick, when he's sad. We are very close. He is so much less work than my daughters are too! They are drama drama drama about EVERY LITTLE THING - he's my golden child! He's never in trouble, he does things without being asked, he likes to help me. He's protective of me and his sisters and he's only 10 and they're all older! It's hilarious!
You will see I'm right - I never thought I wanted a boy either, but I wouldn't trade my Joel for any other kid! Of course, I love my girls too beyond anything, but he is my baby! Boys tend to gravitate to their moms and girls to their dads - it always happens. Not that they love one parent more, but you will have a very special thing with your son!
I think every parent wants to have a child the same sex as they are to see part of themselves in a baby - It's amazing. You can always have a little girl later - God knows when the timing is perfect! Enjoy your little boy though - seriously, when you see him, you won't believe how different you'll feel!
Congratulations!

2007-11-01 08:14:30 · answer #9 · answered by Lamont 6 · 1 0

You will bond with your baby boy :-) ... I would love to have a little boy.. I have a daughter and am 37 weeks preggy with another girl... At first I was upset that I am having yet another girl, but now I couldn't be any happier!....With my 1st daughter my husband was a little upset (although he would never admit it) because he wanted a boy...But, he loves is daughter very much .. she is only 11 months old so there isn't a whole lot he can do with her.. but he does get down on the floor and play with her..... When we found out we were having another girl this time, he said we will just keep shootin to will have a boy! (he thinks I want like 15 kids!).....Anyhow, everything will work out.. and who knows, there could be a lil girl in there! Ultrasounds aren't ALWAYS right!

2007-11-01 08:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by I ♥ my irish twins! 4 · 1 0

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