I have my grandmother's visitation in less than an hour. I haven't really cried since she died, and I'm afraid that I'm going to start bawling as soon as I see her. (it's open-casket) We weren't really that close, but she's still my grandmother.
There's only going to be about 20 people at the visitation, and I know all of them (I think...). So what should I wear? A nice pair of jeans?
How do I respond to seeing her? I've never been to a visitation before, except once when I was very little.
2007-11-01 07:51:54 · 7 answers · asked by ♥♥PinkFuzzySocks34♥♥ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You should dress up out of respect. I wouldn't suggest jeans. And it's your personal choice if you want to view her or not. Personally, when a loved one of mine has passed, I prefer to remember them as they were and don't view them as they are laid out.
2007-11-01 07:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by PJ's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're going through. I've lost my grandfather and two of my really good friends. One in April of this year.
When I went to my friends funeral it was especially hard because he was only 14 when he died. Everyone there basically wore a pair of nice dark washed jeans and a nice dress shirt because that's what he would have wanted.
Wear what your grandmother would have wanted you to wear.
as for your fear of bawling, don't really worry about it to much. I have a hard time showing emotion, and all through the service I didn't cry and it made me feel worse until afterwards a friend came up and hugged me so nobody could see me and I cried for a really long time with him there to help me.
Crying doesn't mean anything except that you cared for the person quite a bit, and in a way it's kind of a good thing because it helps you get out emotions that you shouldn't have to hold inside.
2007-11-01 20:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by rebelwhisper08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can dress up if you think that's what grandma would want, but there's nothing wrong with wearing a nice pair of jeans and a modest blouse to visitation. If your parent's can take you to the funeral home early it might make it easier for you to view your grandmother before others arrive. If you feel the need to cry, don't be embarrassed, just go ahead and cry. Don't wear a lot of eye make-up (it will run and look awful if you do cry) and be sure to put a couple of tissues in your pocket or purse.
2007-11-01 15:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by EvilWoman0913 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wear something nicer than jeans. Do you have dressy pants? You should also wear a nice blouse. They don't have to be dark in color, as long as they are a little dressy and clean.
Sorry about your grandma. Everyone grieves in different ways so don't worry that you haven't cried.
2007-11-01 14:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dress up, like for church. It's a last chance to show your respect, and you do that partly through the clothing you choose. What would grandma like to see you in?
You can't plan how to respond. Just go and respond as your heart and gut tells you.
2007-11-01 14:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by suzanne g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your grandma. You could wear something you're comfortable in, but nothing flashy or tight fitting cuz you don't wanna draw attention to yourself. so jeans and a shirt?
2007-11-01 15:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by tubbyone 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't wear jeans... almost anything else (non-revealing) will do. Ideally, black pants/skirt with a nice shirt or a black dress....
sorry to hear about your grandma.
2007-11-01 16:52:45 · answer #7 · answered by Rossy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋