I have read several questions today that seek to discuss the effects of cheating. The popular response is "who am I to judge?"
Is eliminating that person from your life judging?
2007-11-01 07:41:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Everyone judges. Some just keep it to themselves and don't use their judgements in their decisions.
Anyone who says they don't judge is a liar. They might just keep their mouth shut.
Would you hang out with a murderer? Child molesterer? Come on - everyone has their point at which they "judge" - no - not a good person, I am not going to hang around them.
2007-11-01 07:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I'm reading your question incorrectly, but aren't you asking us that if someone we know cheats and we eliminate them from our life, is this judging?
I believe that you should surround yourself with positive people and positive energy, so if this person causes you to feel poorly when you are around them, then don't allow them into your life anymore. You may be judging, but you are also putting out that you don't agree with or tolerate people who are adulters or go out with married people. That is your right.
If it doesn't bother you, then that is your right also.
2007-11-01 08:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not judging. It's free will. You choose not to have that kind of person in your life. If someone is an adulterer and they are not close to you and you are talking how bad of a person they are because of their adulterous behavior, that's judging.
2007-11-01 08:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not judging it is not wanting to get hurt again by a person you thought cared about you. I would say divorce is the only response to a cheating spouse.
2007-11-01 07:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine reaching adulthood and not having judgments in life if you have any kind of moral compass at all. It's like those who say a politician's personal life is none of our business. I say if a man cheats in his personal life, he will cheat in his public life too.
2007-11-01 07:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by cashmere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are judging this person who has cheated on you as not being worthy of your love anymore and that is acceptable to me.
Good Luck
2007-11-01 07:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, eliminating a person who is cheating is not judging... "birds of a feather flock together"... cheaters will be friends w/ cheaters, faithful people will be friends w/ faithful people =) I don't hang around people who cheat because they are a bad influence... and, a bad example to my kids whom I am trying to teach to be faithful...
2007-11-01 07:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's setting boundaries that you do not want to cross because you are uncomfortable or they do not work within your moral system/character. Who gives a rat's _ _ _ if somebody does what to whom. Now, you might judge yourself if you cross over your own(boundary) line.
2007-11-01 07:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by LuckyEddie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be more specific on you question are you asking from a spouse point of view or just a friend ?
you never judge a friend,,,,
you judge a stranger that you don't know his point of view.
from a spouse point of view...you will always judged.
I will always judge my first husband of being a cheater....
2007-11-01 07:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by Sexy Cuban 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not judging, it's simply not tolerating people treating you badly. Actions do and should have consequences - you can't keep your clothes on, why should you expect people to just get over it?
2007-11-01 07:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋