Does age make a differnce in marriage and in serious relationships?

Question

What age gaps are acceptable? Whats the biggest difference in age you have seen among married couples?

Answer 1

Well that may be my own marriage. My husband is 46, I am 21. But we get along very well! The women he's had in the past used him and made him feel useless and the "boys" my age had no idea what they wanted. It was love at first sight when I met him. We share the same interests, and are happy just sitting at home together visiting and spending time with one another. We fill a void in each other. We are expecting our first child in December, a baby girl and I can't imagine a better person to be a daddy to my children. We work together despite the age difference, you might think that he would take hold of everything since he's the older one...but we make our life decisions together. I'm so glad I found him and cannot imagine my life without him now. :)

Answer 2

the age shouldn't matter unless one of the two are still a child. Charlie Chaplin was I think 52 or so when he married Oona O'Neal, who was only 18 years old. They were married for some 34 years and had 8 children before his death and Oona never even dated after that because she felt no one could live up to Charlie and in fact missed so much she became an alcoholic. As long as the relation ship is based upon love and not age or any other factor it could be fine.

Answer 3

Age is just a number - what's more important is that they have similar philosophies, frames of references, and experiences.

There is a huge difference between 14 and 23. There is less of a difference between 18 and 27. There's not a whole lot of difference between 24 and 33. There's hardly any difference between 48 and 57.

They're all 9-year gaps, but the life experiences make all the difference.

Answer 4

There is no good answer to this because it is different for different people. That is because some people are more mature at a younger age. The problem with a large age span is after the sex. What things in common to you talk about, things you like to do, health issues. All of these can affect a May/December relationship.

Good Luck

Answer 5

the moral saying for most of us would be "age is just a number and shouldn't matter"

but really, in society the proper age gaps are dependate on your age first. say you were 16, the proper age gap would be 0-1 years. if you were maybe 21-22, then its different because you can go great lengths older, like up to 10 years, or mild lengths younger, like up to around 3-4 years.

Answer 6

That depends on the ages involved.

30 and 20? Probably no good.
40 and 30? Maybe
50 and 40? OK.

There are no hard rules here. I would say that people in their 20s should not be more than 3-5 yrs apart, and expand that upwards from there.

Don't go on with "I was 21 when I married my 53 year old husband!" stories people. Of course there are exceptions. Good luck to all, but people who are closer in age are more likely to have similar goals and outlooks and maturity levels.

Answer 7

It doesn't matter what is acceptable or not.It's up to you and the person you want to spend the rest of you're life with. If they are of age. I am 35 and my husband is 55 and this December we will have been married for 5 yrs. We are still going strong. Hope I was some help to you

Answer 8

It doesn't make a difference at all. But it all depends on the personalities, maturity of the couple. My wife is 40 I'm 28. We're completely content with each other. Since we've been together, our ages have never been the catalyst of any argument we've ever had. It's never bothered either of us. We never even think about it, and really never have. We just clicked and got together.

Answer 9

Any age gap is acceptable(as long as it legal) and the couple themselves are okay with it. I don't really notice age gaps, But that could be bc I am a progressive thinker. I don't really notice alot of small stuff bc it doens't matter to me. If you were 60 and she was 30, if she likes it I love it period. No judgement, no questions.

Answer 10

No I like men a lot older than I am, they make better lovers , they already have their life set up, They have a lot of money, Take you to the nicest places, just to be honest I'm not going to go with a man that says, "Let's pick up a pizza and split the cost, OH No. I like the wealthy men that you never have a money problem just go and enjoy yourself , no money problem. The biggest gap I've seen is 20 years and their just AS HAPPY LIVING IN THAT BEAUTIFUL PAID FOR HOME, DRIVING THAT EXPENSIVE CAR WITH A PURSE FULL OF MONEY AND BANK ACCOUNT THAT HAS NO LIMIT.
GOLD DIGGER NO JUST A SMART WOMAN THAT GETS A LOT OF FANTASTIC LOVING.