8 YEARS 3 KIDS BOTH WORK AND TIME WE GET HOME WE ARE EXASTED.
2007-11-01 07:16:25 · 18 answers · asked by jehudnall 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
congratulations for making it 8 years. You need to get someone to watch the kids and make up for lost time on the weekends.
If you are both exhausted, you might also make sure that you are taking a daily vitamin each day because you can get run down and feel exhausted if your body is not getting the vitamins and minerals you need. Since you both work, it may be that you are not getting those in your meals and need the supplements to gt the spark back not only in the marriage but in your day to day work as well. .
2007-11-01 07:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make time. I know the kids are draining. I know the work is draining. But if you dont find date time, you will look up and realize you are just two roommates sharing the job of raising children. Thats a very hard road to come back from.
I dont know the age of the kids but I will assume pretty young...like maybe 5, 3, and 1?
Do you have any family that live in your town? Anyone that you would trust with watching the kids like 2 hours every other week?
Have a nice dinner together...rarely does a dinner last more than an hour or so. Maybe go for a walk afterwards together while you are still dressed up to just spend time together talking about anything but WORK or the KIDS!
A couple gets used to seeing each other in work clothes or weekend clothes when kids are involved. Having him see you in a nice dress with your hair and makeup done will work wonders for your spark.
There is nothing and I mean nothing more incredible than smelling a womans purfume, having her hand in yours and being just the two of you on a full moon spring/summer night. Let the worries melt away and just live in a world that just has two people, you and he, for that short hour.
Believe me, that will do more for your relationship than 100 movies or activities.
2007-11-01 07:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by catfish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan an evening or weekend where you could get the grandparents to watch the kids. There was a book some time back "The Joy of Sex" followed by another "The More Joy of Sex" that had some fun games and things that you and your partner could enjoy. If he/she is open to it role playing, maybe some fun with a whip cream fight. Let yourself have fun and don't think like someone who's been married 8 years with 3 kids.
2007-11-01 07:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ghostwriter1959 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a sitter and take a weekend off if you can't afford to go away, spend a weekend at a nice hotel. You both have to put some effort into it. Yes you are tired, but if you don't try you will just keep going through the motions.
2007-11-01 07:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by Sirena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the kids with Gramma and Grampa, rent a bed and breakfast for the weekend. Go someplace at least 100 miles away, leave the cell phones and that flannel night gown at home.......
Repeat as often as needed....
( even a cheap motel in another city) cellphones and NG advice still applies....
2007-11-01 07:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first is to OPEN UP THE COMMUNICATIONS agian, then usually things will follow.
A good book out there is by Gary Chapman "The Five Love Languages" Look it up!!
Good Luck
2007-11-01 08:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by okiemuskvet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need is a jump start! Leave the kids to a sitter. Go out and get wild!
2007-11-01 07:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by sirdiva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my wife and I. One thing that really helps is to let your husband know that he has full access to you no matter what. Meaning that you are agreeable and will not turn him down when he wants to get close. Let him know that you are willing to experiment with any ideas that he has.
By letting him know that he is in the drivers seat, will help him to get creative and feel empowered to take the initiative.
Good Luck
2007-11-01 07:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by Elven Archer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do things that you would have done in the begining. dress a lil sexier in bed. do things he likes when he is not expecting it. be discrete of course. spontanious and flirty. if you are both exhausted then he would like it if you pleased him. i know you are tired too but you want things to change right. dont let your tiredness get in the way. you can sleep and/or relax later. i dont even know if that is a word!
2007-11-01 07:21:43 · answer #9 · answered by grunt's wife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my first thought would be jumper cable on the nips but that may be a little extreme in your situationhow about going to bed earlier and then getting up a little early for a quickie if you wake him up like that that should create sparks would for me
2007-11-01 07:24:03 · answer #10 · answered by the_orc_1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋