I'm currently in a relationship. It's a good relationship.. it's also my longest. I use to just date.. and not get into relationships because I'm so picky. I found someone who is wonderful.. but I miss the part about being able to spend time with anyone I want.. in a sexual way or not.. My bf is a jelous guy and this makes it even harder on me. I guess I'm just having a hard time letting go of me just doing things for me..with no questions asked. Will this go away.. how can I get rid of it.. any help would be wonderful.
2007-11-01 07:15:27 · 6 answers · asked by nugbug456 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's funny.. I usually like really strong men who more or less take the reins of the relationship.. my bf now is a "nice" guy..(that's one of the reasons I'm with him) but jelous.(something I can't stand). I'm use to the "bad" boys.. but the bad boys who aren't jelous.
2007-11-01 07:39:41 · update #1
Quality is sometimes better than quantity. It sounds like your boyfriend has fallen in love with you and wants to keep you all to himself. The jealousy that is coming from him is the fear that he will lose you and that someone will take you away from him. Nothing feels better than to know that he has choosen you over every other woman he could have in his world and to him you are the one. If the relationship is good what more could be out there to search for. Will they care about you the way he does? Will they be there through the bad and the good and not turn their back on you when you are down and out. When all of your friends out there find someone special they will not have the time for you because they will be into their own serious relationships. Think about how it would feel being a one night stand out there for some guy to use....... you could walk away anytime and it never mean anything to anybody because that guy could care less about any feelings for you. So here is your current relationship and you mean something to him and.... isn't it what we are all out there searching for anyway........looking for someone that we can really matter to? Maybe your search is over .....maybe its time to settle down and accept that someone really loves you........why take the risk of losing his love only to realize to late that what you were searching for was there all along.
2007-11-01 07:49:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you are a person who likes to be in control. You may be competitive in nature and you usually look at people with the idea of "what can they do for you?" This is not necessarily bad, however you need to recognize what your dominate behavior is. If I am right, you will have a hard time in any relationship until you find someone who is weak in the control area(jealous) and strong in the supportive area. Check out DISC profiling through google to find out more on behaviors.
You will not change this behavior until you understand it and work to change it. If you are as I think you are normally fast paced, you make quick decisions and you dislike being in a position where you are not able to be in control. If I am wrong...ooops!
2007-11-01 14:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by Yoda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I didn't see where selfish came in at, even if your in a relationship you still are going to have seperate needs as a person. If you need to hang out with other parties, male or female, on a platonic level, DO you! But out of respect include your partner. If he doens't want to, or doesn't feel like he needs to, than thats on him. Its doesn't make either party right or wrong, you just have different needs. And that is natural! relationship doesn't =same needs. But if your not able to keep it just platonic, then you don't need to be in a relationship. Also, if bf can't allow you to have a life outside of the relationship, he doesnt' need a gf, he needs a puppet he can control.
2007-11-01 14:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes all of us time to adjust to a new relationship. It is hard to suddenly think that you have to consider the other person before you make any kinds of plans.
If the love is true then you will adjust fairly quickly and not miss the single lifestyle. If it isn't the the feeling won't go away and you might consider severing the relationship before your partner gets too involved.
Good Luck
2007-11-01 14:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why you so selfish...you have to find the answer
write down all of being selfish ..you selfish because you trying to protected your self being abuse changed from selfish to carrying and do it because you like to be understandable person,if you think of your bf jealous same to you ...two of you are selfish.
2007-11-01 14:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by garudaku 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time and take your time... you were one way for a long while, so it will take time to settle with this new life style....
if it's not for you, you'll be the first to know
take care.
2007-11-01 14:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋