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Wouldn't affect my life with my family.

Would your answer change if I were a man?

2007-11-01 06:59:09 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

54 answers

I would meet you at lunch time


And if you were male, the answer would be very different

2007-11-01 07:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 3 5

If not satisfied means not satisfied in bed, then I definitely think there would be diffferent answers if you were male. Come on, who are we kidding? It's ok for a man to take care of himself or cheat, it's considered a "right" if he's not satisfied at home. SO why should it be any different for a woman?

Oh ya, you can go elsewhere, but is that really what you want? I think it sounds better than what it is. I've kinda been in the same situation, just more dissatisfied with other aspects of the relationship, and ya even I've thought about alternatives! Most likely, if your goal is happiness and not just satisfaction, work it out with your spouse or move on and find a better man. Good luck, you deserve the best!

2007-11-01 07:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by azure 3 · 0 0

You know how pregnant women just seem to have a "GLOW" about them? Even when they aren't 'showing'? It is unmistakable.

Well, Cheaters have a STENCH about them. They can't smell it themselves, much like skunks or pigs. But, it is there, and everyone around you can sense it, even if you think you've covered it. The only person that is fooled is the cheater.

I was a cheater, and I have been cheated on. My answer would not change if you were a man.

If you wish to demean yourself by proving that your promises are worthless, if you wish to risk harming yourself physically by maybe contracting a disease that cannot be cured, if you wish to bring shame to your family, embarrass yourself and everyone around you, if you wish to hurt the very people you are pledged to protect for life-then by all means, cheat.

Although, since it wouldn't affect your life with your family-why needs be discreet? Obviously, your family would be greatly affected, or there would be no need for discretion!

Why do people measure their satisfaction by a sexual ruler? It only proves that you are masterd by your flesh! There are so many things at HOME that satisfy a person: warmth, comfort, stability, security, companionship, loyalty-oops, maybe you don't know what that is? Anyhow, you are reducing an entire LIFE to ONE miniscule SPECK of what it is made up of.

Take the initiative to attempt to find satisfaction at HOME. Talk to your spouse, find satisfaction in pleasing your spouse, and then worry about yourself.

When your days fade, do you honestly imagine that the memories you will cling to will be how 'satisifed' you were over your lifetime??? When its time to check out, the last thing you will think of was...Man, I c@me so hard in 2007-best 0 ever!? So glad I did that! RIGHT....

Get a grip on yourself- Hey, maybe that would work too!

2007-11-01 07:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by Daisy 3 · 0 0

yes. But know that whatever you do in your own time needs to stay there. Some problems with this are: 1. you will make comparisons in your own mind between your hubby and Mr. X, which can affect your life and family. 2. Your husband has to be allowed to do it too. 3. You may unknowingly contract an std or hepatitis which will affect your life and family. 4. Mr. X might fall in love and stalk you which will affect your life and family. 5. What happens when you are out with Mr. X, and your car breaks down in the parking lot of a motel nearby when you were supposed to be at a conference out of state? 6. Lying will affect you and your family.
So, perhaps you should lightly engage in discussions with your husband about swinging. He might be interested in trying it out with you. I would answer the same if you were a man. (I am a woman)

2007-11-01 07:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by kjoco9 2 · 1 1

Don't do it, cheating is for losers. People with no morals, and usually people in a low socio-economic class. I think you would regret it and lose any dignity you have. You should talk to your husband, tell him he's gonna have to step up to the plate, or you'll have to divorce him and find someone who will. Make sure it couldn't be a medical problem on his part. Even if it is though, there are still many ways he could keep u satisfied.

2007-11-01 20:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by mom of 2 3 · 0 0

No you should not go outside the marriage for satisfaction and it is never discreet. You took vows to be with only this person.

If you are not getting sexual satisfaction then you must train your husband what you need to get satisfacstion. Men are not born knowing how to make love to the female body. They have to learn by experience and if we are not willing to tell them what we like and don't like, some of them may never learn.

Make it a challenge, experiment with different techniques and find the one you like best. If you are know to satisfy yourself from time to time then teach him your way.

Don't resort to cheating and yes, I would say the same thing to you if you were a man.

Good Luck

2007-11-01 07:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by mn lady 6 · 1 0

Maybe you should ask your husband how he feels about it, open your marriage up, maybe he is not satisfied either. A little on the side for both of you then. Be careful not to go to the same hotel though, might be awkward, unless you like 3/4 somes....

I would say the same to a man, other than tell him to ask his wife.

2007-11-01 07:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by scsspace 3 · 0 0

Actually, it would (or should) affect your life with your family, since you would be lying to yourself, your spouse and your entire family. At some point - assuming you have any morals or sense of self-worth - you would get tired of the lies and deception. Maybe you'd even start to feel like a tramp. Or maybe you'd start to feel like your husband was stupid for not knowing, and you'd lose even more respect for him.
It's ridiculous to assume the answer would be any different if you were a man -- there is no justification to cheating. If you're going to do it, just do it. But don't make excuses about your home life or assume you won't affect your entire family, and don't try to justify your actions by blaming them on others.

2007-11-01 07:06:10 · answer #8 · answered by kelannde 6 · 1 1

If you are not satisfied at home,then first you need to let your significant other know this in no uncertain terms. If the situation does not improve, then it may be time for you to make a move. I mean a big move. I was in a marriage where I was not satisfied at home. I had to get out. Life is too short, you should get what you want NOW!!!

2007-11-01 07:05:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

man or woman, same answer: No, do not jeopardize your marriage, unless you want out of it, which is what you should do before shopping around.

It would affect your family badly... your husband, your children, everyone.

There are ways to satisfy yourself. There are interesting things you can try with your husband. Talk to him, maybe he doesn't know you are having this concern.

don't.. DON'T go elsewhere.

2007-11-01 07:09:03 · answer #10 · answered by Kathryn P 6 · 0 0

Doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman, if you are in a marriage then you have a responsibility to be faithful to your partner. If you are unsatisfied, you need to work things out to where you can become satisfied. If your partner refuses to work with you, then it is time to consider a separation. Cheating will only create more problems; it is not the best route to take.

2007-11-01 07:04:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

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