How do you decide??
2007-11-01 06:52:17 · 13 answers · asked by rath 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
if you were young they would have to split time with you. so split time with them. one year go to moms, and the next go to dads. if you go to moms this year go to dads for xmas, and if you go to dads this year go to moms for xmas.
2007-11-01 07:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by Bigpoppa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are a variety of ways this can be done. It depends on how amicable the split was, how far apart they live from each other now, and how much time/money you have to spend on travelling. If one parent will get hurt if you go to the other's house, then don't go to either. Luckily mine live within an hour from each other, so I spend Thanksgiving day at one parent's house then the day after at the other's. If they live far apart, maybe you can spend one year with one parent and then the following year you can spend Thanksgiving with the other parent. You could also split up the holidays so that if you spend Thanksigivng at say your mom's, then you spend Christmas at your dad's and then switch the next year.
2007-11-01 07:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by N W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was older when my parents divorced (25) so I just started having Thanksgiving at my house. I spend it with my mom, sis and lots of friends. Do what feels right to you.
2007-11-01 11:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by Critty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie ,
If at all possible make arrangements to go to both places. You can go to one place the week before. That does not mean that you necessarily will be sharing the dinner with the parent that weekend, but it will let them know that you love them. Then you can share Thanksgiving with the other one for the meal itself. I think that just so they know that you still love them, they will be fine with it. If it is not possible to go to both places, just let the one know for sure that you love them just as much and will be spending Christmas with them. That is the terrible thing about a divorce. It sometimes splits the kids and hurts them or confuses them rather badly, but sometimes it cannot be avoided. So, if you cannot go to both places, visit one for one holiday, then the other the next holiday. Just keep letting them know that you love them and they will be fine. That is the important thing.
Sharon
2007-11-01 08:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by mountain_momma2005 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to ask each one what they think. All of the above answers are great. Since they are going to be divorced for a long time the earlier you get this sorted out the less trouble it will be further down the road. I think you need you parents input.
2007-11-01 08:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by doglover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my parents divorced, they asked me to help them plan the meals and the times for holiday gatherings. Every year, we'd work it out to where I could spend the morning and early afternoon with my dad, then I'd spend the late afternoon and evening with my mom. It generally worked out really well. Just try to get them to not have the festivities at the same time.
2007-11-01 07:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by fancy.fete 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you would know the parent that want you to be with them more now where you decide is a differeent story..I say go with the parent that pays your bills...that being thankful for them
2007-11-01 11:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by ღOMGღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get each parent to host one at a different date so you can go to both. Then when you are at the first one talk about how you are so excited to go to the second one, "cuz mom/dad is such a great cook now", and at the second one keep talking about how the first one was so much better because "mom/dad really improved on their cooking skills and they are AMAZING now!"
That'll teach 'em a lesson or two.
2007-11-01 07:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I stopped going home for holidays when my parents divorced. My mother would have a cow if I was at my father's home, and my father would feel bad if I went to my mother's home. Therefore, I held the dinners in my own home.
2007-11-01 06:59:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be with them both sweetie. Say, mom's for breakfast, and dad's for lunch or dinner. That way you don't have to choose one over the other. Don't make it hard on yourself. Your parents may have already discussed this and have it all planned out.
2007-11-01 07:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by ishowtt4beads 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we have so many dinners at thanksgiving my husband and I just have to roll when getting into bed at night. We eat 3 different dinners and no one wants to change the time and none of them want to eat at our house.
2007-11-01 08:39:33 · answer #11 · answered by firefly 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋