I'm sick of having my needs ignored, even when I'm jumping through hoops for her (because I love her and want to be a good husband). Why not add "not to ingore my partners needs sexual or otherwise" to the "cherish, honor,..."
Your thoughts?
2007-11-01 06:50:23 · 18 answers · asked by Beagle_Boy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When someone loves you and you have desires ................they will do everything to make you happy.....
she does not like having sex with you or she does not love you or she does not care if your needs are met.
my second marriage....
I hated having sex with my husband he sucked....reading the bible was more excitting......
I was always in a bad mood and I hate him even getting close to me....
Sex is the most inportant commonality a couple should have....
2007-11-01 07:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sexy Cuban 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know how the different branches of government have implied powers that are not directly stated in the constitution? I think that should be an implied vow. Of course if you love and cherish and honor your partner, you're going to do your best to please them in every way...but a vow like that could easily be abused. What if the only way you thought she could "satisfy" you is to do something that hurts her or is humiliating or that she really has issues with doing?
Maybe if you focused on her sexual needs, your's wouldn't go ignored?
2007-11-01 13:59:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a novel idea but I'm not sure the clergy of any church would go for it. I hope you are not biased and would agree to give your wife the same vow because a lot of women in these questions claim to not get satisfication in their sex life with their husbands.
Do you know why she does not satisfy you? Does she not enjoy sex? Is she too tired? Maybe hormonal problems? Maybe have her see a doctor. Everyone needs a healthy, satisfying sex life.
Good Luck
2007-11-01 14:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe YOU need to review what you think being a good husband means. Love does not equal sex. If your wife has recently been pregnant or is pregnant or fears pregnancy.. maybe YOU need to look up a few things or ask a gynecologist rather than to ask such questions on a yahoo website of strangers.
In sickness and in health means just that and until you become a qualified chemist ( hormonal ) or internist ( same thing ) or God.. you and none of us really has the right to reject a spouse just because we ain't gettin enuff. Kapish? Sex is not love. Never has been and never will be and cannot be love. Grow up.
2007-11-01 14:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa of America 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, you want to add an 'addendum' to the vows. I would find out why you sexual needs aren't being satisfied first, and go on from there. Is it that you aren't getting any, or isn't she satisfying your kinky request? In any case communicate to get to the bottom of the problem.
2007-11-01 15:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, even if it was there would she suddenly sit up and say that your needs were now important to her? If she has you as a partner and doesn't take care of you one more vow won't make it so - sorry.
2007-11-01 14:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Fine Lady. "...to have and to hold" assumes sexual satisfaction. If she is not willing "to have" within reason to meet your level of satisfaction, then she is violating the terms of your marriage. Take her back to where you got her and see if you can trade her in for one that works.
2007-11-01 14:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your officiant will let you write your own vows and you feel comfortable saying that in front of a group of people, I don't see why you couldn't.
2007-11-01 13:54:02 · answer #8 · answered by KitKat 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Hahahaha!
2007-11-01 13:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by Joanne 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Men have a much stronger sex drive and desire than women. You can blame Mother Nature....
2007-11-01 14:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋