My boyfriend has family in New York (We live in Philadelphia, PA), i can't stand when he calls me out of the blue and tells me he is going to New York that same day, it was either already planned and he didn't tell me or he just decided to go that day. Sometimes he comes home the same night and sometimes he stayss over for the night. I can't stand when he doesn't give me notice in advance, its common courtesy. Like today I CALLED HIM and he was on his way to New York. Would this bother you. I mean aren't u suppossed to tell your other half when your going out of state. He is visiting his brother and grandmother, but thats not the point.
2007-11-01 06:50:05 · 16 answers · asked by Gi952 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A notice is not too much to ask for thats for sure, but u should not get too pissed off about this. u can sit down and talk to him about this and solve the matter.
2007-11-01 06:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by Niel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would bother me but I know it shouldn't. And I have had my eyes open because my husband never holds me back from seeing my family or friends and I would always get jealous when he would want to see his famil and I was not included. And I saw that since he really loves me, he wants me to go and have fun with them and not let me miss out on that and since I love him I have to let him go off and do the things he wants without me also. The more it bothers you the more you make it seem like it is inconvenient that he sees his family out the blue. I think as long as he isn't breaking plans with you in order to see his family then it shouldn't be a problem and you should take advantage of some alone time and get your nails or hair done and he will love you more for not making his family time a bad memory.
2007-11-01 06:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care if he was going to visit his sick and dying mother. Hell yes it would bother me. It's called communication and it's important. If he doesn't think calling to let you know he's leaving the state for the day / night isn't important, imagine what else he thinks he doesn't need to clue you in on.
I wouldn't get mad and upset with him.. I would just do the same thing right back. Pick up and leave for the day or go out with your girls and stay over night and don't even tell him til the next day. If that doesn't show him then leave him in the dust.
2007-11-01 06:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Blond&Tall 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it would be nicer for him to let you know his plans before he does them but he is not obligated to do so. It could very well be that he makes the decision to go at the last minute because he misses his family.
Have you talked to him and asked him if he could try and give you some advance notice of his travels when he can? Explain that you love him and worry that something is wrong when he just up and leaves. Give him the benefit of the doubt instead of getting upset with him
Good Luck
2007-11-01 06:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it would bother me to!. i know that if i walk out that door and just leave without saying anything or tell him where im going when im already going, he would be really pissed off and i would be to of course if he did it to me. I think you should have a talk to him about this, and if you have already, let him know that you are being serious about the issue. i dont understand whats so hard in picking up the phone or letting you know a little earlier. im sure if you did it to him, it would bother him to? dont you think?
2007-11-01 07:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by arlene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not your other half, but it would be common courtesy to tell your bf/gf if you're going out of town, especially if you've been together for a long time.
2007-11-01 06:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by ron-D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This would definitely bother me and I would tell him that I already have plans and won't be able to see him. That should either make him stop altogether or get his act straight and give you more notice.
2007-11-01 08:37:33 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'd think it would be common courtesy if I had a close relationship with someone. Perhaps you're taking this relationship more seriously than he is.
2007-11-01 07:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that would bother me. If I give a days notice whenever I go anywhere, he should do the same.
2007-11-01 07:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's his life, and if he wants to take a spur of the moment trip to see family, it's his choice.
Don't you have a life outside of the boyfriend? If not, try one.
2007-11-01 07:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋