One cynic described marriage as one year of flame and forty years of ashes. I believe he thought this because he related love to feeling, not to a daily decision. The feeling of love comes and goes and comes back again like your appetite. The commitment of love is unrelenting and sure. Loving commitment is an act of the will – a self-disciplined lifestyle.
(an article from bryan davis)
2007-11-01 06:39:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it is because they don't see a real marriage growing up. I came from a happy home. Parents have been married for over 30 years and I saw them kiss and hug, fight, and make-up. I saw them do activities together and apart. I knew the feeling of love growing up. So when I truly feel in love I knew it. And I knew how to work, communicate, and love my spouse.
2007-11-01 06:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by taz19953369 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So many women no a days just look at the bling bling of the ring and the big wedding day not really focusing on the
vows and the lifelong commitment the marriage is suppose to be. It's like lets see how big the diamond ring is going to be then that will tell me if I say yes or no. Society is just screwed up really in the past sometimes they did not even have the money to purchase a gold band let alone diamonds and those happened to be the marriages that lasted the test of time and the vows of death do us part was taken to heart.
I think if men and women had only one time to choose there spouse for life you would see alot less divorce because people would be more inclined to choose wisely. Not basing solely on looks and other physical attributes rather on personality and how you get along with each other.
I hope this answers a little bit of your question. God Bless
and Best Wishes in life.
2007-11-01 14:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I so agree, yes many marry young and sometimes that is the problem. I do believe some are serial players and shouldn't marry.
Those who do want to commit to marriage, should go in 100% and make it the priority. After all the years and you look back on a life well-lived...it's worth the effort.
Deepening intimacy is better than shallow flings.
2007-11-01 13:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by Contemplative 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HA! I'm having a hard time getting over the flames after 10 years. I suppose its different for everyone. No one ever told me that marriage meant i was supposed to learn to accept that when she gets mad she chucks blunt objects at me and punches holes in the walls. Can't say its that bad really, shes good to me other than having a crazy temper, and most times I can calm her down.
2007-11-01 13:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by Koozie the chemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to chose to be with that person everyday. Sometimes your just tired or bored. But if you truly love someone then being bored only brings new interests.
People now days are young when they get married and only think of marriage as an image, (it makes them grown up)
They take advantage of each other and think getting married will bring their relationship stronger....wrong
2007-11-01 14:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by deedee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is indeed a self-disciplined lifestyle. Many are simply not cut out for it. You nailed that one on the head.
2007-11-01 13:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by Brittney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people don't understand marriage because they don't understand themselves fully. How can you love someone and say forever when you don't know yourself? I've been in a long-term relationship now for 6 years and we aren't married because I know myself and I know I have commitment issues "straying" so I don't think marriage is appropriate for me!
2007-11-01 13:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by Starry Pluto ॐ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't marry for love anymore. They marry (ego) for money, security, and good looks. If you read about twinflames vs ego you will see the difference. loving someone unconditional has nothing to do with a house, car and finances.
2007-11-01 13:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know fire has been important to our evolution and survival. I know that on a cold day fire is important to keep warm, cooking has conventionally used fire, and that a lot of good things come from fire including smelting of metals, generation of a lot of power, and even combustion for transportation.
But once you have been really burned, it's hard to be comfortable around fire or have a lot of good things to say about it.
2007-11-01 13:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as one true meaning of marriage.
Marriage is two people that agrre on similar thing and they enjoy each other company.
I can't stand how people think of marriage....
they use words like discipline, faithfulness, commitmment ....
is not for everybody, it allot of work......
is like a disease.......That needs to change....
2007-11-01 14:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sexy Cuban 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋