I just found out a couple of weeks ago that my husband had been cheating on me with his "other babymama" when I was pregnant with our son. I was very upset and made him leave the house but now he's really upset with me and I dont understand why when he's the cheater!! He left and is now seeing other women...(which I found out from looking at his Myspace). Why is he doing such things?
2007-11-01 06:21:15 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he's mad cuz he got caught... ticked because you win the game by dumping him... mad because he has to pay child support to yet another woman! lol! milk him girl... don't forget about alimony! good luck! don't take him back, ever... he's trying to make you jealous, don't fall for it... let him play, and hope he gets aids...then, he can only have supervised visitation as well! sigh... sorry that he's such a Loserrrrrrrrrrrr capital LLLLLLL... =(... he's an unstable man... don't let this child around him by itself...
2007-11-01 06:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably had no good father figure in his own life..and has no clue how to become a great father. It is ok to let him go... and YOU STOP seeing anyone like him because it only means maybe your own value on men is not as high as it should be .. ...
Do not marry anyone else or have men over at all.. raise your son alone ... until you can find a mature enough man ( and you be mature too ) without exposing your son to ONE man you meet to marry who will not leave you or forsake you so that your son learns how to be a truly good man by what he sees as opposed to what you say. Children must see and hear the truth to understand what it is. It is not good enough to say... do as I say and not as i do.
2007-11-01 13:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa of America 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your husbands infidelities, it sucks a lot. LB has it right for sure. He wasn't taught to deal with guilt so when it creeps in he gets angry and twists it onto you, the blame, the guilt, and the responsibility of it. Definitely needs to be kicked to the curb at least until he grows the heck up. Very extreme in the self centered department. Don't take the blame for this and make him fix it, he cheated, he broke it.
2007-11-01 13:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by scsspace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is showing you his anger so that you feel responsible for his actions. Remember not to accept this because cheating is a chice and never a mistake. It's a thought out plan and putting yourself in that position to get there and make it happen. Do not tollerate any excuse from him and know that you deserve to be treated respectfully in any relationship. Men can control themselves if they want to and there are decent men that do. Think about what you expect out of life with a man in it and stick to your morals.
2007-11-01 13:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was probably looking for an excuse to get mad so he could leave 'guilt free'...
He wanted to be free but didn't want to have to be the 'bad guy'.
Don't worry, its not your fault. He is being a coward and a b**tard. Try to let him go and move on.
Goo luck, big hugs.
2007-11-01 13:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by kinkykiosk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont even waste your time worrying with this loser. He is mad because his no good piece of crap butt got busted. You will be so much better off without him in your and ur childs life. Guys like this dont ever change, he will come back to you, but only when he needs something, this is when you need to stand your ground and dont let him him intrude in your life. Good luck and remain strong!
2007-11-01 13:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if he's mad,HE CHEATED! They like to switch everything around to make it look like your the reason why all this is happening. Don't sweat it, you did the right thing. Once a cheater always one.
2007-11-01 13:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's rationalizing and being defensive.... and i'm sure he gave you some DUMB reasons for his infidelity... right?
Well, YOU have nothing to feel guilty about... but he sure does!
He is doing these things because he can't accept or face his mistakes.... and probably never will...
You are fortunate he's gone....and he is not treating "other women" any better than he treated you.
2007-11-01 13:25:39 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
cause like alot of these guys they are just players even when they get married a lot of us guys don't care all we care about is getting laid by a lot of women. its not right and i wish you the best you did the right thing by throwing out his carcass and hopefully in time you will move on and find a few of us good guys out there
2007-11-01 13:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by gasguy695 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's mad cause you caught him and he really dosen't want to leave you.. he can seperate the sex with the other girls with his family life...
he's a bit confused.... some guys are like that .... let him go once he relizes what he lost he will come beggin ... at that point it's up to you to take him back and try to fix your life... don't just leave him though...
2007-11-01 13:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by Latin G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋