This means my son will be around 15months when i have my baby, I am worried that this close age gap is going to be make it very difficult to cope, and give them both enough attention. Has anyone else had kids with a close age gap, if so how did you find it?
2007-11-01 05:38:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My first son was born May 20th of 2005. My next son was born May 17th, of 2006. They aren't even a full year apart. But its not really that hard. They get their own attention and get to spend time with us alone, along with their own clothes and toys. Its challenging at times, but I love it. Good luck! And congrats!
2007-11-01 05:56:36 · answer #1 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a foster mom and have 5 kids 3 and under at the moment. My two that we have adopted are 13 & 10 months. The other three kids just came last week and they are 3,2, & 4 months. My babies had a couple days adjustment time to the new baby in the house (who is much more needy because of her age) and after about 5 days everyone is happy again as long as I take time for all of them 1 on 1. I actually will keep one up from a nap a little longer to have alone time, and sometime will wake one up from a nap a little sooner for alone time. When I started doing that, it made everyone happy.
So there will be an adjuestment period, but as long as you give the effort to show your son he isn't being replaced...I think it will be okay.
Besides, my hubby and his brother are 18 months apart, and while growing up they were close enough to always have a built in buddy...they loved being that close in age! Still do!
2007-11-01 05:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very good friend of mine had her kids 14 months apart. It was difficult when they were young. She would have to carry her daughter (older of the 2) AND the infant carseat. So it was more busy work at first. My first 2 are 3 years apart. My 3yo at the time could help a little. So the early busy work is better if the kids are farther apart
BUT!!!!!!
When her oldest and my oldest were 5 her youngest was 4 and mine was 2. My friend's kids were inseparable. They played together all the time. The did all the same things because they were so close in age. I was so jealous of her! My kids couldn't play together at all! So I had to do a lot with the younger one and try to fit in time with the older one.
Now my oldest is 9 and his sister is his best friend. Same with my friend's kids.
My point is it spacing doesn't matter. In some ways, yes, so close is harder. But in many other ways it is SOOOO much easier. I don't think any babies are born at the wrong time. They know when it is their time to come into the world. Congratulations on being fortunate enough to be blessed twice! Blessings to you and your family through your pregnancy!!
2007-11-01 05:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by the Family Lighthouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have an 11 month old daughter and I am currently 37 1/2 weeks preggy with my 2nd daughter. They will be 11 months apart. You are a mom and a woman, so you will be able to handle it! :-) ... For the first few months of your new babies life, he/she will sleep...So during that time, you can spend with your son....Also, when you are taking care of the new baby, explain to your son (even though you may think he doesn't know what you're talking about) what you're doing. He is old enough now where he can hand you a blanky or anything you may need. Let him be your little helper. By the time that the new baby is old enough to sit up and play, let your son play with him/her.
I have been thinking a lot of this over also since my 2 will be so close in age and that's all I can come up with. Your mommy instincts will kick in and you will know what to do and how to do it :-)
2007-11-01 05:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by I ♥ my irish twins! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids are 13 months apart.Only because I had the oldest 2 months premature.But i find having them so close in age,easy.As I had the second,the first was just out of diapers.When the baby is sleeping then spend time with the older one.I am not sure if you are a single parent like i am but I made it work.If you have a companion involved then you will be able to spend quality time with both children easier than I.As the kids get older it gets easier.
2007-11-01 05:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by smurfcrazie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant with my second child when my daughter was only 7 months old. Of course I freaked out and cried like a baby! However, I ended up having a miscarriage at 12 weeks and was devastated. I had just gotten over the "shock" and then I ended up losing the baby. God has His own timing and reason for everything. Just know that He will never give you more than you can handle. God bless you during your pregnancy and thank the Lord everyday for your little blessings.
2007-11-01 05:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by jenadee_01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right with you in the same boat, seems like your taking on water though. The main thing is to focus on the positive- they will be the best of friends (as much as the worst now and then), you'll have plenty of love and devotion for both, they will going to school together much sooner, lots of follow the leader (one showing the other how to potty train, eat with a spoon, read and write) and all while you are blinking. It's going to be messy, loud, frustrating, funny, and your life will never be un-boring again. This is my fourth, she will be blessed with a 16mnth older sister and two school age bro's....believe me, if my high-anxiety, always late hubby, living too far from family, home biz self can take it, it will be a breeze for you (and do not forget play dates, you need social time too)! Good luck and remember----cherish it, soon you'll be packing those college boxes and trying to figure out what to do with their rooms.
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2016-09-28 03:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by cogliano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend found out she is pregnant and her son was only 6 months at the time. He's 8 months now tho. She found out when she took a test. She said she felt she needed to get a test and she was definitely pregnant. It will be rough but you have to give your older child time too. Not just for the baby. It'll all work out right. God wouldnt give you more than you can handle!!! Take care!
2007-11-01 05:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by short_n_sweet70301 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not as hard as you think. Its only the first year or two thats diffcult, and from there the age gap actually makes it easier.
Take help when its offered, ask for it when its not, and give yourself a break.
I have a 9 month old and reeeally want to be pregnant again, because I actually want my kids that close together. Its a great time!
Have fun!
2007-11-01 05:42:14 · answer #10 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋