we were fighting and he yelled he was tired of being around me but when i said i will leave he said please don't and that he did not want to leave either but when i tell him that he hurt my feelings he said no he didn't. so do you think he still loves me even though he said that?
2007-11-01 05:24:11 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Yes...people say things they don't necessarily mean when they get angry. He said he was tired of being around you but he probably meant at that moment. When I get angry I want to be left alone until I can cool off. That is probably what your husband meant. He was wrong to say he didn't hurt your feelings because you would know if he did or not so it's not up to him to decide that. If he asked you not to leave, he still loves you. My husband and I have had some nasty fights and we're still together after 15 years. Every couple argues (or they repress an awful lot of anger). The trick is not to make it too personal and to say you're sorry when you're wrong and settle the argument. It's also good to work out the issue so you don't keep having the same arguments over and over again.
2007-11-01 05:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by luckythirteen 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When angry we sometimes say things that are not true, simply out of a desire to hurt the other person.
It is one of the great things - and not so great things - about love that we experience emotions so much more powerful than any you have ever felt before, both good and bad (and when a child comes along, a far different type of emotion comes into play also). You feel the joy of your loved one like never before, but you and s/he can also drive each other into depths never before felt.
Argument talk should be discounted, it doesn't show what he really feels most of the time.
2007-11-01 05:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by johnny_100pesos 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he still loves you. I really thought women would be more keen to this than what they are, but no one (man and woman alike) means everything they say in an argument. I can only speak for myself, but with my competitive nature (and most guys are) we will do things in an argument strictly for the purposes of what we feel is necessary to "win." Fortunately though I grew up and I now know that no one truly wins an argument. Arguments are healthy to get issues out and begin discussion, but they become unhealthy when both parties feel the need to "win." So take everything someone says to you in an argument with a grain of salt, and focus on the issues at hand.
2007-11-01 05:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
& why did u say that? Every one fights,,,does that mean they are gonna end up the relationship? He said that out of anger & he still loves u :D Has he told u that w/o u too fighting, if he hasnt then there is no possibility that he dont love u.. He does. Communicate w/ each other, im sure u can sort out ur problems on ur own rather than asking on here ie Y!A
Good Luck
2007-11-01 05:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by ¶-ÑØ FÈÅR ÑØ §URRÈÑÐÈR-¶™ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People say hurtful things in anger and regret it afterwards. If you were fighting then he likely meant he was tired of being around you because you two were arguing. If your relationship is otherwise a good one, then let it go and chalk it up to words said out of anger that he didn't really mean.
2007-11-01 05:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that he is tired of the current state of the relationship with you. He still loves you and etc. but is unhappy or unsatisfied on how things have turned out right now. This tends to happen a lot in relationships, especially longterm ones since every once in a while couples lose their spark. Its both of your responsibility to bring it back. As long as the need for the partner is there, try and try again.Relationships arent maintined by purely the connection but by the experiences and values they share with one another. Hope it helps
2007-11-01 05:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by The Meh Factor 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
God are we married to the same guy or what! these men, I tell ya. Yes he still loves you, mine pulls that **** all the time too. Just let it ride. He loves you he was just frustrated at the time and he said he doesn't want to split either so I'd chalk it up to just another fight. No worries, you guys will be fine.
2007-11-01 05:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We all say things in the heat of the moment. The important thing is how he treats you overall.
If this is a rare circumstance (it seems like it is) then he still loves you.
But don't let him completely off the hook. Tell him he hurt your feelings. He can't say that he didn't. Your feelings are yours & yours only.
2007-11-01 07:20:49 · answer #8 · answered by jtbrick1208 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he probaly just meant that when yall fite he doesn like being around you i know how you feel that would hurt my feelings also but remember hes a man men do dumb things they later regret this always works for me get a list right good and bad write all the goods things hes done or does and all the bad things if they are more good then bad then you are okay if there are more bad then good then...........
2007-11-01 05:35:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe what he meant he was
"tired of being around you" when you are both fighting , but that he loves being around you when you are not fighting...?
i hate fighting and i hate listening to people fight...
i don't like being around people fighting either... it's upsetting
hope you can straighten things out.... what bothers me is that when you told him your feelings were hurt, he said they weren't - how does he know what you were feeling? hmmmm
2007-11-01 05:30:35 · answer #10 · answered by JustSo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋